I lost my Dad suddenly a few weeks ago. I have struggled to come to terms with life without him. I just want him back. I live hundreds of miles away and couldn’t get to him in time as he had several sudden cardiac arrests then passed with complications at his local hospital. I just want to talk to him one more time to say how much I love him. I hope I am strong enough to face life without him
Very sorry for your loss. I lost my mum 6 weeks ago and can relate to how you feel. I don’t live as far away as you but didn’t get to see her a final time. As the weeks go by, it is hard to accept I won’t ever see her again. What I would give for one more chance to see her!
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The thing I find difficult is not having one last final goodbye. The last time we spoke Dad phoned me by accident and I returned his call and he was just his usual self. If I’d known that was the last time I would have told him how much I love him and that I would look after Mum. I miss his friendship and the fact he used to make me feel safe. Maybe that sounds a bit weird but when he was here I just felt everything would always be ok
That does make sense. A parent you are close to is your safe place and the person that can make everything seem ok. I know my mum was that to me. Ironically the only person who could make me feel better at the moment by talking is the person who is not here.
My mum’s health was declining over a number of weeks but naively I didn’t know she didn’t have long. How I wish I could have our last visit again and tell her it’s ok, not to be scared, tell her how much I love her and to thank her for everything!
I now try and tell her those things in a diary or by talking to her but it’s not the same and as much as I want to believe she knows I’m not sure that’s the case.
Hi I’m sure he knew how much you loved him I’m thinking of you I lost my dad in January and I’m struggling still but your so early on in to your grief take each day as you can and be kind to your self try to eat well of u can and sleep when you can x