Hi everyone I’m new to this site and don’t normally do this kind of thing but I’m struggling in the run up to Christmas this year. I lost my husband to Cancer two and a half years ago and have coped really well so far. Continued working, keeping socially active and joining a choir this year which has helped enormously. For some reason the last few weeks have been really difficult. Lots of raw emotions and feelings resurfacing when I honestly thought I’d got myself in a good place. Anyone else feeling like this after the initial year or so of intense grief wears off?
Not sure how to navigate the next few weeks. Have lots of things to look forward to but am surprised at the intense feelings that have resurfaced xxx
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Will be two years in January for me. I’m definitely in a better place but still have waves of grief. It is something I’m assured by others further on than me, that it will continue this way.
Waves come out of no where and i think because we have been doing so well, it’s more of a shock and confusing.
For me, Christmas is definitely a trigger and this time of year as i approach january. I’ve never been a fan of winter either. Also, for me, as the shock and grief lesson, i have more memories, flash backs coming through. Some conversations can trigger a memory that i had forgotten.
Life is harder and more exhausting without them. Remember how far you have come and it’s ok to still feel a mess.
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