Grief exhaustion and guilt

Coping with bereavement
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I’m finding it even harder now coping with losing my wonderful Mum. It’s been 5 weeks since she passed and its getting worse every day. I feel like I’m crying non stop and others seem to think I should be picking myself up and making an effort but I can’t. It’s just so exhausting trying to cope and to just put one foot in front of the other and drag myself through the empty days now.

I went to a book club for an hour yesterday and I managed but when I got home I cried and screamed for an hour because I felt so guilty for trying to move on. I feel like I’m betraying my mum by leaving her behind.

Is this a normal reaction do you think or is there something wrong with me?

When will the pain of loss ever begin to ease?

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So sorry for your loss. I have no answers. Grief, losing my mum is the worse thing I’ve ever been through. What you are going through is normal and it’s early days so be gentle and kind to yourself. Take it a day at a time and feel what you need to feel. Sending hugs x

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Thank you Lisa for your lovely words. It’s hard to cope with everything at the moment but one day, one step at a time seems to be the best way to try to manage.

It’s overwhelming :pensive: otherwise.

Sending you love and hugs too. Take care

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It’s very normal. You’re still in shock and emotions run wild then. The guilt is very normal too, unfortunately, for some reason we all tend to feel like that. Try to ignore what others say you should do or how should be, it’s your grief and you grieve in your own way. It takes the time it takes. :heart::people_hugging:

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Thank you Ulma. What you say makes complete sense but I thought I would be getting over the shock now. Like you say I will grieve how I want to.

It was good to hear some common sense advice from someone who obviously understands how it all feels.

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Very normal I’m 9 months in and there’s some days I can’t function I cry and am still in disbelief my dad has gone so be gentle with yourself it’s so early !

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Thank you for taking the time to reply to me. It really helps that there are people out there who do understand exactly what it’s like. It’s so hard but I know it will take time to find what will be a very new “normal”. And not at all one I wanted.

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You are welcome. I am drowning in grief the last few days and the lovely people on here have helped so much. One day at a time x

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Oh yes it’s so hard trying to navigate a new normal without my dad has been so difficult it’s all the firsts too that come into the process too … I’m new to this but it’s nice to see how others are coping and feeling the same the last few days i have been feeling so down and sad … x