Grief for a job

Losing a parent
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Its our first xnas without my Mum. She passed in January and I feel like ive only just started to Grieve but not in a massive way. Just odd moments here n there. We had 2 months with Mum on end of life so I had time to process the loss while she was dying.
Im actually finding tbat I am grieving more for my job that I was forced to leave in June. One minute working, the next Im out. No time to process or say goodbye etc.
Is this normal? How do I let go of this and move forward? Any advice appreciated.

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Hello @Oddsox,

Thank you for reaching out and sharing this with us. I’m just giving your thread a, “bump” - I’m sure someone will have some thoughts to share.

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Hi Oddsox,
I’m so sorry for your loss. We all grieve differently. I’m completely devastated from losing my mum in late July & it’s my 1st Christmas without her too so I understand.
What happened with your job?

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Hi Oddsox, I’m so sorry for your loss. I lost my mum 3 week ago and the week after she passed I was let go from my job.
So I empathise with the double-grief. It is a two-handed punch, so to speak.

I can’t offer much in terms of advice, but only what I tell myself; our wellbeing, sanity and emotions have to come first, easier said than done i know, since we all have bills to pay.
Perhaps you are in a career where you can resume once you feel ready, or perhaps like me you feel it might be time for a complete change.
Take things slowly, reach out to others, don’t for one moment feel guilty or like any of this is your fault. It’s a long road, and you can’t see round the corners, we can only take one step at a time even if the next pace isn’t clear.

Best, RK

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Thank you for bumping the post

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Thank you Anne and RH

I cant discuss the reason for leaving the job. I have been silenced by the company.
I had worked there 19 years and wasnt allowed to say goodbye to anyone. I have got the union involved.
I have managed to find some one that can help specifically with the job loss grief and family are helping with Mum,s grief.
Thank you for your kind words. Sorry for your loss too. One day at a time.

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