It’s been 7 weeks since my husband died. We had been seperated for five years. But the grief is hitting hard. I’m crying a lot. My stress load is massive. I have headaches and chest pains. I’m not coping that well.
2 Likes
Same for me after those first weeks. It changed for me gradually but not in a straight line, more like a bumpy ride. I am so sorry what a burden we bear. My counselors told me they may be 1 thing. Then you have that one thing. If it’s a plush or a new water bottle or a favorite slippers, maybe it could be watering a plant. Then you have one thing.
I have liked sailing themes and knots of course are important. One knot is made just to provide a grip and drag for someone overboard. That’s one thing.
So sorry to hear your pain
1 Like
Sorry you’re hurting too. I can’t control the grief. It’s awful
1 Like
Thank you. It’s been better for me lately and I didn’t expect it ever would be. This is a horrible situation. Sending you 
It was our wedding anniversary yesterday too. And last week one of our children celebrated their birthday. Already so soon we are having firsts without him
2 Likes
I am so sorry. My husband was not nice to me unfortunately so I have no Firsts to recall. When I read here of people loving and seeing the beautiful relationship they had it makes me happy. What a precious thing to know that you have those memories! 
My husband was mean to me. We seperated five yrs ago. But for some reason I can’t see the bad stuff now. My head is confused.
1 Like
I hear you. It takes a lot of threads to work this out. And time. It was my choice to be with him. What that means to me is mine. 
Absolutely. No justification to anyone is needed.
1 Like