I have lost all my close family on my mums side, including my mum and auntie this year and my dad 2017. I was an only child also. I just feel that with so much death around me, ive become a bit hard if that makes sense. There are times start feeling emotional and its almost like my thoughts shut down and i go numb. Like i snap myself out of it. Does this make sense to anyone else?
Makes sense to me @Jane26
People manage grief in many different ways and all are mostly ok.
When I’ve lost close people before I’ve been like you describe - like my emotions shut off the feelings, but over the years they did come out - just not all at once.
I didn’t have any control over it - it’s just the way I responded. I don’t think you’re hardening - it’s just a coping mechanism
Sadly since I’ve lost my husband the grief is very different. Constant, unbearable and sucks the life out of me. So different from losing my dad, grandparents and others.
All grief is valid and there is no right or wrong way. Xx
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Bless you. So sorry for your loss. I can remember how my mum was when we lost Dad. Im glad im not the only one who has had this kind of reaction. The sadness has to come out at some point, right? It was different losing my dad. I cried all the time and missed him terribly. Its after my mum has come this stone cold feeling. I suppose we just have to go with it and try not to loose one’s marbles!x
I think my marbles are well and truly lost !
Some days grief does make you think you’re going crazy but you’re right - we just have to go with it and hope we survive somehow xx
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