I lost my mum and my best friend 10 months ago and the time around her death I was very strong for my daughter and my young grandchildren. There was lots of tears and heartache but gradually everyone starting to feel stronger, the children are talking less about her and they are enjoying things again and my daughter is doing better but I am feeling completely absorbed by grief, I feel worse than the time around her death. I replay all the events during her time in hospital over in my head and i feel completely broken without her here to talk to. My husband says i need to speak to a doctor but nobody can help bring my lovely mum back into my life.
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I’m so sorry. I’m also here to deal with the loss of my mam who was my best friend in life.
I completely understand. I’m probably not the best person to give advice because I’m in the same boat. I’ve replayed everything of her last 48 hours and before, wondering what I could’ve done to prevent it. I think logically we know we can’t change things but wish we could. I don’t have children/grandchildren but i understand it’s hard to go about the day to day things for others without feeling guilty for doing so.
You sound like a wonderful, loving daughter and I hope you find your peace x
grief groups and grief counseling helped a lot for me. it is normal to grieve more than them. they did not come from her, directly as you did.
I would see someone your own special time away. this is your special grief.