I lost my partner of 30 years to cancer in March 2024. I have never felt so much pain and heartache. I did my best in the beginning I must keep going get back to work keep busy and be strong for our 2 boys but I fell unwell in December and I have never felt so alone my partner did everything for me and all I wanted when I was unwell was him. Christmas was also his favourite time of the year and I just couldn’t bear the thought of Christmas without him I feel like I have just lost him again. Grief is so up and down I overheard someone say shouldn’t I be over it by now NO he was my life and I will never get over losing him. Currently not sleeping mind is not allowing me to, I have redecorated kitchen bathroom and living room this has been done at stupid times of the day and night and now all I think about is what can I do next very manic at the moment but getting help from GP. When will the pain stop
Chelsea, i dont think we will ever stop being in pain. I lost my husband 5 months ago and the pain is unbearable. I cant ever imagine a time when i wont feel the pain but people have told me that you just learn to live with it. Its so unfair that we have to. I feel like im just existing, not living, and just waiting till my time comes to go & be with him again. Do you feel the same? I dont want to be here without him, we were married 38 years & together 41. I cant remember a life without him in it. He was/is my whole world & i love him so much. Im so sorry youre going through this too. Life can be so cruel. They say grief is the price you pay for love. Thinking of you & sending love & strength x
Sally9
I know that feeling of wanting to be with him everyday it hurts and I am the same just existing day to day. Sending you hugs and thinking of you.
So sorry for your loss and people saying get over it is very disrespectful how the hell do you get over losing the one person you’ve dedicated 30 years to my partner was 51 when he suddenly passed july 2023 we were only together 3 years I’ve had friends say the same and people you need to find someone else I was told so guess what I found new friends I still wear my engagement ring and it will never come off unless I shower that’s it and I will never replace him yes I get lonely but I have my 2 daughters a friend like my sister and cats you will never get over losing someone you love 
you just learn to take the grief along with you xx
Chelsea I lost my husband 6 days ago today and cannot stop crying, he was my husband, best friend, confidante , my everything and just cannot fathom how I am going to move forward, Married for 41 years. But I know my Lord will see me through this painful time. Sending you lots of love and hugs xx
I lost my wife on 29th April 2024 , we had been married for nearly 48 years, she was suffering from Motor Neurone Disease and watched her deteriorate for four years before she passed away , i cared for her at home but towards the end she had to go into a hospice , i feel so empty without her, we met in 1975 and have been together ever since, never having to live on my own , the loneliness and emptiness is overwhelming, i feel her presence everywhere, i know she is in a better place because that horrible disease took everything away from her and she is no longer in pain , i know it’s only nine months since she passed away but I’m struggling with her loss , November would have been our 48th anniversary, first Christmas without her, January 12th would have been her 66th birthday, I’m struggling at the moment to get through each day , i miss her so much and still can’t believe she is gone 
So sorry for your loss!
Thank you , i appreciate it 
Hi lovely, i lost my wife after 35 yeas of marriage and 39 years together. I too lost her to cancer, and like you i kept myself busy by redecorating the house. Even rooms that didn’t need it. To those that ask if your still grieving well they don’t know what it’s like to lose something or someone. Five years next month and I’m still feeling lost i still burst into tears in private. You will feel better one day but you won’t forget, so as i tell everyone small steps, thats how we get over the pain.
I lost my husband on xmas eve and im now in the middle of redocorating in a lame attempt to remove the grief and somehow bring some light back into the house…it feels so empty…no one can tell you how to feel and what to do. Go at your own speed and in your own direction xx