Its 9 months since my husband died of cancer,diagnosed in Feb and gone in June. I sold our home, retired and moved, everything you thought was solid ground is now gone. I cry every day at some point and try to ride the sadness out. All the parts of life that were so regular are now the parts I would give anything to have back. A meal together, a laugh at the end of a work day, a hug, a kiss. Its a very lonely empty place to find yourself.
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I am so sorry. I lost my husband 8 weeks ago very suddenly too, and navigating life as a widow is so very difficult, but please try and look after yourself, and hopefully you will find peace in all the happy memories you have of your husband x
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I could have typed those words myself. I lost my partner five and a half months ago. Most days I cry, I m always anxious and I see no end to the loneliness. I keep asking why? over and over again.
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Lynn the loneliness is the worst thing. We become so protected and comfortable in our loved ones embrace that when it’s gone it’s easy to crumble. We have carry on even when we’re missing what has normal motivate us.
Lots of strength
Tom
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Hello all I also lost my partner Jan 16. he had an accident end of November and he looked like he was recovering so very unexpected. I still cry most days at some point. I am lucky to have friends and family I can cry in front of. Unfortunately the waves don’t always come when I am with them. I am back at work with good people around but the loneliness and sadness is still there all the time. Thoughts with you all.
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I’m sorry you are in this heart breaking situation it’s something only those who have gone through understand. It’s like being ripped apart. I’ve been through life seeing this happening to others without realising just how devastating it is, had I known I would have done much more for them. Lots of strength
Tom
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Hi nikfabs, so sorry for your loss. My husband had been struggling for a while with heart issues late last year, and he had a cardiac arrest which took him. I’ve cried a lot today, and the cries can catch you at any time. Take care of yourself x
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Hi Norma, all you can do is take one day at a time. My husband was taken suddenly after a cardiac arrest, and I keep thinking could I have done more to save him, but at least he is free from his troubles now. Take care of yourself x
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agree Tom. Alicia who I knew a bit from our local bar contacted me not long after my partner died. it has turned out to be invaluable and I will definitely pay it forward as you say. We share lots of similarities but also understand the differences of what we are both going thru and meet weekly Nikki
the cries certainly can Teecee Nikki