Grief

Losing a partner
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My husband died in June and my 15 year old dog died at the end of July…I feel incredibly sad

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I am so sorry you are feeling like this. It can be so hard when you’re suddenly alone. This site has helped me through so please keep reaching out you will be heard <3

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Hello JakeyWakey, I am sorry, Your partner being ill for 2 years, so I guess you were his carer. I was my wife’s carer so I understand the huge hole you now have in your life. losing your four legged companion of about 15 years on top of the loss of your husband has made your life even harder. Your loss of your husband being this recent you are probably still dealing with the administration while still in shock. I found that I could only take one step at a time. Do the important things then be make sure you are eating and drinking. Be kind to yourself, I am sure that your husband would want you to be, If you feel really bad, please see your GP / Doctor. I have found this site helpful, so come on for a chat, or a ramble, I do, everyone on this site understands as we are all going through this hard experience. Hope to here from you soon. Sending you a big hug like from your brother.

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So sorry to hear of your losses.

People here understand how grief, particularly the loss of a partner affects you.

It’s not going to be easy, but those who lost their partners say that you will learn to live with the loss.

Old saying is that grief is the price you pay for love.

I lost my love of 60 years in March this year, son I have a heavy price to pay. :cry:

Join in here and please look after yourself :pray:

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Thanks so much for your kind message…I have been wading through admin for what seems like forever and have hit a brick wall with the probate so am going to have to get a solicitor involved as I get emotionally drained just thinking about it :disappointed_relieved::pray:

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I am so sorry, I feel for you. Losing your husband and then an old but beloved dog seems like too much at once.
I don’t know what to say, except that the very simple step you have taken in joining this forum will, I hope, help you. Everyone here has been through the loss of a partner - I know when I had to have my 14.5 year old dog PTS just a year after my husband had died I went into shock again. It was just too much at once.
I’m thinking of you,

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Thankyou…I know you understand how it feels…it’s a whole new grief on top of grief …I am adjusting to a very different life and it feels overwhelming… thankyou for taking the time to reply to me …I am 71 and my house has been filled with children and dogs over the years…now it’s just me…I hope you are ok … did you get another dog …I don’t think I can I loved my dog so much :pray::pray:

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Hi Jakey Wakey,

I was lucky in that I had two dogs left, the problem I had was that I had to move home within a year of my husband’s death - we’d bought another house using a bridging loan in Jan 2020, before COVID changed the world as we knew it. I had two houses, a mortgage, a bridging loan and only enough money to last me a year in our SIPP - Jim, through no fault of his own, had been sucked in by an investment scam.
The good news is that I managed to make the move back to Scotland, which I love.
It is still so very early for you - all I can suggest is that you surround yourself with mementoes of happy memories you shared.
I’ve found that there will always be a space in my heart for Jim, but I am 71 too, and who knows what the future holds for me???

C2020xxx

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Thankyou…that’s a lot of financial worry for you…so sorry you have had to deal with so much …I am trying to look forward to a different kind of life … applying for probate is casting a shadow every day but I think I am going to hand it over to a solicitor… Scotland is very beautiful…I went about 50 years ago …time is catching up with me …take care :pray:

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