I’m finding it hard to grieve for my Grandad and Uncle. I was starting to grieve for my Grandad but then as a family we found out my Uncle had cancer and in January 2026 we found out he had 2-4 weeks so my time then went to making sure he was as comfortable as possible and my Nan could come to terms with loosing her husband and now another one of her children and grieving for my Grandad went out the window. After my Uncle passed in February 2026 although I cried all I could feel was anger and now it’s June 2026 and still all I feel is anger for both my Grandad and uncles passing so much so it hurts my heart and I can’t think about them without being angry.
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Hi Rachel,
This is perfectly normal. Particularly with multiple bereavements close together. My mum went through similar when she lost her dad and brother within 6 months. This dredged up the anger and resentment of losing her mum 40 odd years previous when they were all young. Something as a family they never processed properly. It was the 70s and people didn’t talk about feelings then.
The good news is you are a lot younger than she was, and you have time to put it right, before it spills over into affecting your health.
Have a google of the 7 stages of grief. It will talk in depth about the stage you are at and how to move forward. Anger being a very real stage in the early days.
We all ultimately need to get to that end stage which is celebrating the people’s lives and the good they did. It will take time and it will be very small steps.
Whenever i start to feel anger, what i will do is initiate a text conversation with a close friend of my passed loved one. Hearing their comments back about how they touched their lives will often start to evaporate the immediate feelings of anger.
The more positive vibes you can create about your grandad and uncle the better. Try and do at least 1 thing a day that celebrates their life in some way, and marks all the great they did. It will make you feel better.
Daniel
Anger is for some people a normal part of grieving. Some say that there are several stages of grieving, personally I have found they’re all mixed up and loop back and fourth. I’ve been at the anger stage for a long time as it’s eight months since I lost my partner. My anger is directed at God for taking him. Grief can be relentless especially when you’ve lost two people you loved. Lean on your family and friends if you have them, it’s better not to be alone. Hopefully in time that anger will subside for both of us. Take care.
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