I don’t seem to be able to get over my grief after loosing my husband seems to be getting worse
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I am the same Shirl. My husband died in 2021 and am still struggling We never get over grief but we learn to build our life around it. This I find very difficult. I miss my hubby every day and cry at some point everyday. If I’ve been out and laughed I feel guilty. I feel if I let go of the pain I am letting go of a little bit of him. I have to work on this and try to think differently. I am sure he wouldn’t want me to feel this way but it feels so hard. People say keep busy but there comes a time when keeping busy doesn’t work and the grief is waiting. Surrounding myself with family and friends helps for a while I need to find a happy place where I can live a life and remember my husband with happiness and try not to be sad x
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Hello,
Sorry to intrude on your conversation with ‘Shirl’ only I have just joined this site and saw your post. Yes, things are very raw for you at the moment but I lost my husband in 2012 and still I am not over it, but if you are trying to find some kind of ‘happy place’ where you can ‘remember your husband and try not to be sad’ I am happy to share with you exactly how I have managed to channel by grief in a most unusual direction if you care to hear me out. Keep your chin up - although whenever people say that to me I generally reply … “not as easy as you think.”
Look after yourself.
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Hi
Yes feel just the same as you seems nothing helps miss him dreadfully we had a wonderful marriage would have been 55years this year he was such a kind and loving man with not a bad bone in his body he was my rock I cared for him for about 5 years with dementia and never regret one day of doing this but going forward I find very hard unless you have been through it people don’t understand I am hoping to move near my daughter which will help hopefully because I am a independent strong lady people think I am coping well but underneath all that my heart is truly broken and cannot wait till the day we are together again. I am sorry for your loss too Shirl
@scarlett566 I’m really interested to hear your story. I think a few are. It would be good to hear how you channel your grief. We all share our experiences, good and bad, as it does help different people. Having someone so far down the road and having there point of view is good.
Hi lost my husband in 2021 as I have posted on here but Saturday I had to have my loyal border collie put to sleep so now totally lost and seems I have nothing left in my life she gave me a reason to get up in the morning and tend to her needs life is so cruel I know my husband loved her so she is with him now bless her so lonely
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