Grief

Coping with bereavement
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Hi there,

I have been struggling for a over 14 months now since the loss of my nan who practically brought me up along with grandad. She had alzheimers for 3 years, and suffered badly during 2021 and 2022, and she died November 2022. It killed me watching her decline and losing her, i have done nothing but cry over the last few years.

I lost my brother age 19 in 1988 of an asthma attack I was 20, and didn’t speak to anyone about how devastated i was. Same when my grandad and stepdad died, and good friends and family, it just keeps adding to the immense loss and sadness i feel, and i have a massive hole in my heart that cant be filled. I only have my lovely husband now who i really care about, and cant believe all these people i loved and they loved me have gone. Life just seems so very depressing.

Will things get better because everything is an effort, i just cant be bothered to do most things, and have to force myself every single day.

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Hello @Robin2,

I can see that you’re new to the community, so I wanted to say that I am so sorry for the loss of your nan that brings you here. It sounds like you’ve experienced a lot of loss in your life, and it’s understandable that everything feels like such an effort when you have so much to cope with.

I’m sure someone will be along to offer their support, but I wanted to share a few Sue Ryder resources with you that may help right now.

Thank you again for sharing – please keep reaching out and know that you are not alone.

Seaneen

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I am so sorry. I can’t even imagine how you are feeling. I am glad you reached out to this community. Life is crazy. I hope you are ok