Grief

Coping with bereavement
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My wonderful husband died five months ago and three weeks ago my beautiful grandson committed suicide. Why am I still here, it should have been me. My son and his wife are distraught and I wish I could find some strength from somewhere to support them better but my life is a wreck with dreadful grief anxiety and depression.

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Hello @Gwenllian,

I’m part of the Online Community team and I can see that you are new to the community - I’d like to thank you for bravely starting this thread and sharing how you are feeling. I’m so sorry to hear about your partner and grandson. Most community members have sadly experienced the death of a loved one and so will understand some of what you are going through.

I’m sure someone will be along to offer their support. In the meantime, you may wish to look at these Sue Ryder resources which might be helpful.

You might also want to look at Survivors of Bereavement by Suicide. They offer support to people over 18 who have been affected by suicide. They have a supportline on 0300 111 5065 and run support groups nationally.

I really hope you find the community helpful and a good source of support and I also hope you feel you can access more support should you need it.

Thank you again for sharing – please keep reaching out and know that you are not alone.

Take care,
Seaneen

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Oh @Gwenllian I am so sorry for all your loss and the distress you must also feel for your poor grandson and his parents.
There is little I can say that can help, but maybe just letting your son know you understand their grief is all you need to do.
Be kind to yourself and just do what you can.
There are lots of people on here to offer support and have an ear to listen.
We are here for you so please don’t feel you are alone.
Sending love and strength xx

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It is comforting to know that there are people out there that offer support when they’re going through terrible grief themselves. So thank you for thinking of me.

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So,so,sorry for your loss,am sending you the biggest hug.xx

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Thank you so much. That is what we all need. Just to have a hug off someone. I wake up every day not wanting to be here. I just don’t know how I’m still here living in this terrible nightmare. I’m so so sorry for all the people that are going through awful grief like me. My heart goes out to all of you. Will we ever see any relief from it.

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I am so sorry for your sad losses. Much sympathy to you and your son and daughter in law. Sending a huge hug