Grief

Losing a parent
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I can’t cope with losing my mum we were best friends I’m an only child, my dad got dementia and me and mum had to take the horrible discussion to place him in a home. If I went into the whole story we would be here for ever . I want mum back I’m thinking shall I just go be with her :broken_heart::broken_heart:my dad has since passed away. I’m so sad about everything I don’t want to be here anymore x

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Hello @Barney2 ,

I’m part of the Online Community team and I can see that you are new to the community - I’d like to thank you for bravely starting this thread. I’m so sorry to hear about your parents. It sounds as though things are very tough and you are feeling really sad.

It sounds like you’re looking for support and I’m glad that you’ve been able to share how you’re feeling with us. It is very normal for people who are grieving to feel a bit lost and not knowing where to start.

We know that a lot of people experience suicidal thoughts when they are grieving, and it is often about wanting the person who has died back or life to go back to how we know it. We have a video about it here which you might find helpful:

https://griefguide.sueryder.org/support/suicide

There is lots of other support out there, and I would really encourage you to reach out and speak to someone about how you are feeling.

  • If these thoughts of suicide become overwhelming, please call 999 or contact your GP for an emergency appointment immediately.

  • You can call 111 and choose the mental health option to speak to a trained mental health professional (England, Scotland and Wales only)

  • Samaritans are available 24/7 to talk about anything that you are worried about in confidence. You can call them on 116 123.

  • Shout are contactable by text, 24/7. You can text REMEDY to 85258 and talk to them about anything.

  • You can also find your local NHS urgent mental health helpline.

  • Sue Ryder offers an online bereavement counselling service. This is a free service and sessions are held via video chat so you can attend from home. There’s more information about this service here: sueryder.org/counselling.

You can also make an appointment with your GP and ask to be referred to counselling or other support services in your area.

You deserve care and support so please, @Barney2 , get in touch with one of these services.

Take care,
Alex

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Hi @Barney2
Welcome to this forum, sorry to hear your struggling with your grief at the sad loss of your mom. My mom passed some years ago, it is a big change, & a lot to deal with. I understand how your feeling at your loss, it is heartbreaking when we lose someone we love, our parents, mom especially, is a big part of our lives, they are there with us through so much, & the thought of the future without them can be a very bitter pill to swallow, but take time to breathe, I’m sure your mum would want more for life for you, none of us think clearly when we’re grieving. You mentioned your an only child, do you have any other friends or relatives who can help you when you have these thoughts? If not, don’t worry, you can talk on this forum as much or as little as is comfortable, we’re all here for the same reason, we’re all somewhere on our grief journey. Sending hugs of support.

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