Grieving Alone

Does anybody have any advice on how to cope if you’re grieving alone?

I lost Mum suddenly on 10 November. We were in Orlando on holiday for her 70th birthday (it was her favourite place). After two days, she started complaining of neck pain and she was tired and didn’t have any appetite. I called the doctor who came out and examined her and said she had a muscle spasm and was dehydrated and prescribed painkillers and muscle relaxants.

A couple of days later, I woke up and found her laying in the hallway of our hotel room. I immediately called 911 and hotel staff and then paramedics performed CPR but with no success.

Mum was everything to me. I’m an only child and Mum was an only child so I don’t have siblings or cousins. I’m estranged from Dad, I haven’t got any contact details for him. I don’t even know if he’s still alive. I haven’t worked for 4+ years because of anxiety and depression and I haven’t got any friends.

I wouldn’t change the special relationship I had with Mum for anything but I’m so envious of people who’ve still got family, friends and partners to support them. The celebrant who’s looking after Mum’s funeral came by last week and it was the first time somebody had hugged me in weeks.

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I’m the same my mum died a week ago she was estranged from her sister and nieces the only remaining family

She went suddenly as well taken into hospital for a bad uti And high blood pressure to go from this time last week telling me that she’ll be coming home in 4 days (ward staff) to waking up the following morning to be told she’d gone - and now we have to have a coroner case as they can’t find cause of death
It was just me and my mum and the cats (plus my partner ) we rowed like crazy at times and I’ve lost count how many times I told her to drop dead , escaping to my partners house (he lives in London ) was like respite for me not having to listen to her complaining
I’ve had neighbours come round oh we’re so sorry what happened and then they don’t utter a word again
Dreading the funeral as I know there will be hardly anyone there

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