I lost my dad in march and it’s really now starting to hit me. I’m grieving and angry and sad and just all over the place not knowing how to feel. It’s completely ruining and dragging down my relationship.
Has anyone else found that grief really puts a toll on your relationship with a partner? If so I would love to hear some tips 
The best advice I can offer is talk to them, don’t shut them out, let them have their say and tell them how you are feeling. It’s a start - where you go from there depends on your responses to each other.
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Yes, talk and listen. Remember that your partner isn’t grieving, but they are worried about you. Dont expect them to understand and agree about everything with you. Allow each other different ways of coping with each other.
Make sure you both have your own time and space to reflect.
Good luck.
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I lost my dad jan last year. My partners has been amazing in every way apart from listen when I try and talk…. He just talked over me saying things like “ I know how you feel” “ you’ll never stop missing him, it will get easier though”. But all I wanted was him to listen not talk.
1.5yrs on and we have recently split up as I feel angry and drink to help dull the pain……
I have started to cut down on alcohol now and booked in to see a councillor next week.
I think or hope that getting myself right might lead to getting things back on track in the relationship maybe….?
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Hi
Ive just recently lost my partner joanne whilst on holiday in mexico of a massive heartattack that was on april 26th of this year i dont really know how i feel if im grieving or not sounds stupid as i had to bring her home on the flight with we aswell we had her cremated out there due to cost and red tape that the family would be out through ive people stop me and have said basically the same as you have but dont know really it will effect me im really frightened at the moment because i dont know how the coming weejs months etc i gonna effect me
I’m so sorry for your loss. A sudden death is hard in this country but when it is abroad it must seem more unreal. You sound like you’ve just had to get on and cope.
It sounds like you are still in shock at the moment but as it sinks in you will start to go into another phase of grief.
My partner died in feb suddenly and the unreality was weird. Now 5 months on the grief is less raw but it’s still hitting home that I won’t see him again.
I’ve found I can never get some of the answers I want and I can’t change what happened.
You feel how you feel. X
Hiya
Thats very true what you say but whats killing me at the moment is that i wasnt at her side when she passed away to say good bye as the hospital would not allow me to and her daughter told me she had passed away the following day when i was only 1hr away from her
Thank you for replying
That is so sad.
I’m sure she knew you loved her. Was her daughter there?
Morning
Her daughter was back in england i was in nexico the british consulate in nexico did not ring her she had to find out herself all they did was send an email saying she had passed away
Morning.
That is terrible for you both.
It’s going to take time to process what happened. I’d imagine there are so many conflicting emotions.
I’m wondering if it may be worth getting a referral for grief counselling from the gp and getting on a waiting list?
Thinking of you.