Everyday feels like groundhog day wake up in the morning and find things to fill the very long days. Its been 10 weeks since my husband passed away and i still wake up expecting him to be laying there or coming home for dinner after work. How is it you can be surrounded by so many people yet still feel so lonely
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I know hiw you feel 10 weeks for me too.
I wake up and dont know what i expect.
Feel up and down most of the time. I think i am on auto pilot and govtgtough motions get dressed and go out fir walk to shops to buy ahopping but dont want to buy items because they remind me of meals we shared together so nust leave and living on toast and cornflakes.
Sleep in staggered managing a few hours waking up and then taking a couple of hours to go back to sleep.
So feel like life in limbo groundhog day
Trying to live this new life on your own without your loved one is so hard at the moment. Take csre
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I am still feeling that way after 10 months still expect to see her or be there when i come home most distressing i have ever been through love to you all 
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you’re it on your own as i lost my wife over two years ago i’m still in a mess but i carry a piece of her ashes in a bracket so it makes me feel like in a way she still here
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I think that does help having a piece of them with you i had a piece of my husbands ashes put into a necklace so i can keep him close to my heart and a tattoo of his finger print in a heart on my wrist x
We really are at the identical stage. Day after day the same fight. The same realisation.xx
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Just noticed, shock horror, another Bank Holiday just around the corner … the weekend after next! Weekends are bad enough without the extra Monday!
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Any events seem to spatk off memories of previous time spent with our loved ones.
It seems it never gets better we just learn how to get through these times.
We have to live on for our special ones as i im sure they did not want to leave us and im sure where ever they are they are waiting for us to join them when it is our time.
We will always miss them no matter how long it has been since they passed we just need to keep busy and look after each other on this journey no matter how sad we feel.
Take care x
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Yes, @Galaxy75, events and many things can trigger our emotions. We have to soldier on as our dear loved ones would have wished. It’s an uphill struggle with no easy route from the journey we find ourselves on. I hope and pray we do meet up one day, at my lowest points that thought keeps me going.
Having a structured day and keeping busy is one of the answers to coping. Sending hugs.
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I feel as though I have forgotten what “happy” feels like. Or even “content” . There just seems existence and survival.
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Sandra, we can add: a feeling of ‘peace’ and of ‘joy’. My existence includes ‘profound sadness’. xx