My husband of 50 years, died one year and two weeks ago. I have donated some lovely clothes he owned to Marie Curie (he was a bit of a clothes horse), but I now have an overwhelming sense of guilt and loss, almost as if I have lost him again and it feels dreadful. Will this feeling of betrayal pass? Has anyone else felt the same? I don’t know what to do 
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Hello @Burnsie66,
I’m so sorry for the loss of your husband. Thank you for sharing this with us. I’m just giving your thread a gentle, “bump” for you - hopefully someone will have some thoughts to share.
Take good care,
Alex
Hello Burnsie66,
I’m sorry for your loss and that you’re feeling bad about the clothes donation. I’m not able to set your mind at rest I’m afraid as I haven’t taken this step myself yet. I am only 4.5 months into my grief - but I have wondered what other people do about this. It does seem practical to let someone else use the clothes. A friend of mine decided to take her husbands fine suits to charity and found, after 2 years, they had all been wrecked by clothes moths.
I can see why you might feel conflicted with feelings of guilt - grief plays mind games with us I think. You loved your husband and donating his clothes is not a betrayal at all, Grief just has a way of making us feel worse all the time.
Please try not to feel bad - you’ve done a nice thing.
Thanks for your kind words, Jojay, he did have some lovely clothes and made to measure suits, Marie Curie staff were wonderful with him, although only as an outpatient, so I hope some funds can be raised through sale in their shops. Four and a half months is so painful and everything is still so raw for you, I hope you find strength as and when you require it. Take care 
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