Feeling really down today. I just don’t know how to navigate life anymore. Its one loss after another…just so depressing. People keep saying time helps, time heals blah blah. The way I see it, time just means more people will die around me and more grief to feel.
Sorry for the doom & gloom but just not feeling much positivity today.
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Hi Nori,
I think we’ve spoken before.
I’m sorry that you’ve also suffered multiple losses.
I’m so emotionally drained…
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This is exactly where Iam and it’s making me ill. I’m so frightened.
Hi @Ang2 I’m sorry to read of your struggle. Grief is tough and there will be dismal times sadly. This is where the distraction activities come in, just doing something different to move you forward. Any simple task… a walk, run, breathe in fresh air. It’s not going to resolve the pain obviously but it might help you to feel less stuck. Routine is also good, anything that stops grief becoming overwhelming. Best wishes xx
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I can relate ,my husband was only 56 ,im 58 and im now the top of the ladder so to speak ,ive lost all my family ,i have 2 daughters and a grandson and no one above me , i know its the circle of life but its frightening, and totally utterly crap fir want if a better word.
How I miss the family gatherings and chaos and laughter, how I miss the presence of the older generation in my family listening to there amazing stories and there lives , there advice and wisdom ,I wonder what the hell life is all about and why its so painful ,I carry on knowing my girl’s need me and im there advice and strength now ,sorry for going on but it helps to talk x
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Hi Raffy
I know exactly what you mean. And on top (I’ve a 13 year old son), my life at 55 is not ‘future proofed’. I’m terrified! 
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@Rosiepink thank you and I do agree with your suggestions and I have actually been distracting myself with lots of things to the point where I’m wondering if I went overboard to not allow some downtime to feel the grief…
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Hi @Ang2 yes, you have to strike a balance… set aside some ‘grief time’ when you can just connect with your feelings and let them flow. But then also get back to your routine stuff and feel capable to keep going. It’s all very difficult though but I just feel that every day I have got through is another day I’ve survived. I know I have to try and live my life to the full because that’s what my Mum would want. It’s seven months since her death and I can’t say I am there yet, but I will keep trying. Best wishes xx
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Hi, hope you have had a bit better day. I was like that all day Thursday and Friday. The coroner has brought forward my sons inquest. I was, well so I thought prepared to read the bundle they sent to…I obviously wasn’t as the effect it has had has knocked me back so much again. The inquest is in September, and the thought scares me, people say it helps to get it over with. We will see on that one. Take care xx
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Hi @MJG sorry to hear you’ve been struggling too. Big hugs to you.
With regards to your son’s inquest, do you have close family/friends who can support you through? xx
I understand how you feel.
I’m feeling the same most days.
Having lost my Mum in April,my sister 2 years before that,strangely the same month,i feel lost and alone and struggle to look forward to things and feel happy…
Its like i’m waiting for the next bad thing to happen,as there have been previous traumatic things happen to a close relative before the loss of people i love…
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@SarahJane60 I think this is all part of the grief process. I’ve struggled to regain any zest for life, I’ve found it really hard to go out and do things that used to bring me joy. I also think that once you’ve gone through the pain of loss you worry about what might be round the corner. We know that life is precious and fragile. I’m hoping that in time I’ll be able to get back to making the most of it, rather than being fearful and sad. Best wishes xx
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My partner he is going with me to the inquest, but even the thought of it is making me cry. I wish part of me had never read the post mortem report, it has destroyed me. My so called best friend hasn’t a clue how I feel, she never asks or even mentions my sons name, I know people find it difficult knowing what to say but I feel I’m going backwards again, I’m sat crying again, sorry I’m full of gloom again. Thank you for being here xx
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I’m really struggling again, I usually go swimming, my partner just said are you going for a swim, not sure if I’m even fit to drive today. I hate feeling like this, and question myself…why so many times in a day. I feel my son choose drugs instead of me today. I’m devastated and really not coping again. Take care, without this site I’m not sure what I would do xx
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@MJG crying is a good release for your sadness so let them flow… Whatever helps you to get through this traumatic time. Don’t put yourself under any pressure to do anything, go with your instincts for now. Sending you love xx
Still crying, but I have just booked a swim, hopefully I can get myself together to drive. Little steps for us all…I have never experienced pain and heartache like this. No one gets it apart from the people on here who are all so kind and understanding. Take care xx
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@MJG So sorry to hear you are struggling so much today. If you need to climb into bed and cry for the rest of the day then do it. Sometimes, we all need a day to just cry. I’m at work at the moment so can’t really burst into tears and people are just getting on my nerves. I’m feeling down & impatient. Just a few more hours to go…
Anyway, I hope your afternoon gets better xx
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Thank you Ang2. Have managed to get myself for a swim, crying but feel bit better for it. I hope your day goes quickly at work. I find people very annoying at the moment. Take care xx
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