Happy news that I can't Share with Richard!

My daughter and her parner have an estate in Scotland. It’s about 35 miles from Inverness. They don’t live there permanently. She messaged this morning to say, She’s engaged, He had kept it all a secret… My first thought…I can’t wait to tell her Dad. Then a dark cloud decends and I can’t share this with Richard. I have cried and cried. I’m am happy for them and sad for us.

It’s so hard isn’t it - on so many different levels and for each on of us and our families.
My daughter bought her first car last week and was so excited. We went to look together and I was there with her through all the purchase, test drive etc but I was thinking all the time “ it would have been your dad that would have wanted to do this with you “
She wasn’t thinking what I was - but she did say she went to text her dad when she picked the car up to let him know. Then remembered.
Happiness and sadness all at the same time.
No wonder we all feel like we are going crazy half the time.
Just trying to accept the mix of emotions is probably the way forward. Not sure how to do that yet though.
Sending love and hugs xx
And congratulations to your daughter xx