Lost the love of my life October the 6th we were teenage sweethearts married 51 years he lost his fight with cancer his Funeral was Thursday then Saturday my Father passed away i dont think i can cope any more
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I am so sorry for your loss, I lost my partner on the 7th of October aged 42. To lose your dad too whilst still so early on in this grief must be horrendous. Keep posting and reaching out for support, it is so hard and as me you probably feel lonely, scared and huge waves of emotions. I lost my dad 5 years ago he was 54, I think I had only just come to terms with his loss when my partner passed and I feel I have nothing to go on for, however I have 2 beautiful daughters and his parents to support so have no choice but to somehow carry on with this pain in my heart x sending you hugs and wishes x
I am so sorry to hear of your losses, to have lost your husband and your father in such a short space of time must be devastating. It is very early days, be kind to yourself and reach out to your family and friends. I would not have got through the first weeks without my. Daughters. Keep posting on here, it’s a great sounding block with others who are grieving and caring
An update to everyone who replied my husband lost his fight yesterday morning im absolutley heart broken
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Lesliej I am so sorry to hear that. I’m not going to give you all the platitudes like he’s at peace now because this is no longer about his pain, it’s about yours. Take whatever help you are offered, look after yourself and stay strong. I’m sure at the moment you are dreading the future but you will get through it, we all do. It’s a difficult journey for us all and we all deal with it differently. There is no right or wrong, be true to yourself and know there’s always support on here 
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I’m so sorry can I give you a massive virtual hug and tell you youre doing amazing and your not alone xxxx
@Lesliej, I’m so sorry to hear about your husband stay strong and keep talking on here.
@Heartbroken6 so sorry for both your losses we are all here to help you get through this difficult time xxx
Cancer took my late ex wife and then took my late wife within 2 years.How evil is that .23 years and 32 years now alone. Michael x
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Today, I went and ordered my husbands headstone. It felt as if I was in dream land and doing it for somebody else. Once it’s all in place early next year, I can then bury his ashes. I need to do this as then I can feel he’s at peace. It was a sad day, but I got through it as I left the memorial place my grandson text to see if he could come and gelp me do some odd jobs after school, it was as if my hubby had asked him to check on me.
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Hi @Punto I had to do this a few weeks back and was so so hard and makes it all seem so real. We have the burying of the ashes on the 1st of December and it’s looming over us although my half will stay with me until I can join him and be placed there together. People say once this is done you can start to move on but just feels like another thing that will knock me off my feet. I feel like 6 weeks in I’m getting worse, the thought of going out and doing things fills me with dread yet in the first few weeks I did those things. X
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I am 17 weeks in 18 tomorrow. iI can’t set a date yet as I want the headstone in place first. It just feels so final and yet I know deep down he wouldnt want me feeling sad and upset. I guess we are all going through a similar feeling. X
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Yes we all are travelling through the same emotions and it’s so unfair. We are putting a temporary memorial until the stone is there as his parents wanted to get it done sooner rather than later which I get x
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