Yeah I find keeping busy is best but when you stop it does hit you . Sorry for your loss . Think I just need to have better plans for a Sunday .
I hate Sundays too. My dad died on a Sunday on 12 March this year and I relive it over and over again. Hour by hour, I miss him soo much. It hits you like a brick some days. Wishing the time would slow down as it gets longer and longer since I spoke to him. Despite his last few months being very difficult, I would do anything to have him back. Rubbish day today feeling very low and sad. I know he would want me to
Get on with things but some days I just simply can’t….
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I feel you. Today was my first Sunday without my love. He passed on Wednesday and I am on a roller-coaster of emotions. Hugs to you.
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Hugs to you too . Yes it is a rollar coast of emotions xx stay strong you can do this just take a day , minute or hour at a time . And let the waves do their thing . It’s Monday today and am doing ok so far but picking up my husbands ashes today so don’t know what I will be like after that .
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Im so sorry for your loss and I completely understand how you feel, I’m 3 and half years in and still hate the weekends, family and friends seem to have their own agendas and I sometimes feel totally isolated. Who wants to cook for one person. I wish there were grieving groups near me where I could go but I can’t find anywhere, what do you do?
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This was my second Sunday so this is all very new. My daughter came and we took her dog on the beach it was lovely. When she went home and I was very tearful, I guess it’s very early days for me, don’t know how it will all feel as time goes on, how do other people cope?
Ps I used my slow cooker on Friday to cook a casserole which was lasted till Sunday
Thinking of you
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Everyone feels different. You are still in very early days. It’s a good sign that you went out on the beach. You will feel very teary. Just go with it. When you feel like crying. Cry. It seems easier for people who have supportive family who are close. Some people are just more resilient than others. Personally I loathe Sundays but after 4 months they are getting easier. Thinking if you. Sandra
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I don’t have any family just got my friends so depending if they are working I cans be on my own which is lonely . And cooking for one isn’t great I tend to have ready meals for one . I have looked up groups too but very hit and miss . Take care x
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The cooking is a big adjustment, no appetite and cooking for one not worth it!
Am a cook in a hospital kitchen so portioning for two was bad but Sam had a good appetite so cooking for one like you say is so bad and like you say not really hungry I have been eating but noting healthy . Really fancy a Sunday lunch so tempted to go to local pub this Sunday just to get that fix .
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You are not alone in hating Sundays - I don’t like them either
I hate Fridays late afternoons
Weekends can be challenging
What helps me to survive is to try to organise as many things as possible for the difficult days
Xx Sadie
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How to get through any day is hard, does it get easier over time, by the comments on this thread not really?
You get used to it
My husband died exactly 5 years ago - it doesn’t feel so raw . The pain the hurt is always there but less intense because I have learned to accept that this is what is going to be
I could tell you that you get over it but that wouldn’t be the truth. You never get over it , I am still learning to live with this hole in my heart
Xx
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Oh my goodness 5 years that sounds a long time but time goes so fast. Well done I hope you have found some happiness during those years I guess it’s just different. Sending best wishes and love .
Kathy6
People are different and feel different
Happiness is a word non existent in my vocabulary. I found some steadiness , quietness and also moments of contentment.
I am a very different person and the death and loss of Jack is always there with me
It is a long process
Take care
Sadie
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I hate everyday as it comes I was working from home all the time so use to seeing him till he went to work in the afternoon…My husbamd passef on 01 sep 23 10th of sep was my wedding anniversary and 11th of Sep I had to go and collect his death certificate. Life can be so cruel and hard…
Hi Sadie, as you say everyone and everything is different and you have at least found some contentment on occasions which is good news. I understand the lack of happiness it’s impossible to imagine being happy after loosing your partner,
I’ve just lit my log burner, my husband loved this glowing, I am happy thinking of him but miss him so much. Keep strong x
On a Sunday morning 11 weeks ago, we woke up as usual, followed our usual routine.
That was the last morning we were together.
He died suddenly and unexpectedly in the afternoon. It was so quick.
I came home without him.
As you can understand, Sundays are very, very difficult.
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@RoseGarden i know exactly how you feel, I don’t know if it gets easier, I’ve not felt that yet after 7 months. Take care x
Big hug coming your way x
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