Right so today is 4th Sunday since I lost my husband . Since he took his last breathe, since I didn’t know what was happen , that I felt useless and lost . All this week I have had the normal waves yet today am so low it’s unreal . Really hate Sundays . And feel like the world is so slow on a Sunday too .
I know it’s still early days but I just want a 6 day week . It’s also coming up to my wedding anniversary which also happens to fall on a Sunday in a couple of weeks .
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The weekends are always worse as it seems everyone else is out and about having fun. You are very early on this dreadful journey and all I can say is that you have to try and get through each day. I’m nearly 8 months in but still have waves and I think that it’s something we have to expect. Take care Gail xx
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This is my second Sunday alone, it’s like a bad dream isn’t it, be strong
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I just hate Sundays. 4 months in and I can say things seem to be on an up at the moment despite the tax man. Those early weeks are really bad. My neighbour lost her husband 7 years ago and she says she still gets the occasional low day. Thinking of you all. Watch some stupid films. It helps me. Xx. Sandra
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@Nes1980 my husband passed away on a Sunday so I always find Sunday’s the hardest. It’s also my 1st anniversary next week without my husband, so can relate to your apprehension around that. We would have been married 35 years. I’m further on this journey than you (6 months) and I have a lot more better days now. Still upward struggle though. Take care.
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Yeah it’s awful I know tomorrow I will be in a better place but today is just bad . You stay strong too x
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I know it will get easier am surrounded by people today playing games but on our anniversary I am planning junk food films and pjs xx Nicola
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It would have been our 7th I know it’s gunna be hard so I have made plans of lazy pj day with films and junk food and maybe next year go on a little holiday you take care too
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Does anyone feel like their previous lives before this grief was a dream and we have woken up to a nightmare? My previous life with Norman almost feels unreal. . I just don’t know how I feel some days but I know I am not happy and just existing.
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Sandra, I feel like you. I have just been trying to remember our Sunday mornings, Richard intently reading his Sunday Times and me happily preparing our lunch.
A quote about living and existing below, just about sums it up:
‘In simple words, the difference between living and existing is that a person who is existing will not be happy with his life whereas a person who is living his life will be happy and enthusiastic about his life’.
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@Pudding I sometimes get the feeling that my life is just a bad dream and I’m going to wake up and be relieved. Say to my husband I just had the most awful dream. If only🥲
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Oh if only. If only. If only.
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Yes the thinking this is a dream too and I have done the whole pinching myself but nothing . Am trying to rebuild my life but so hard when we did so much together .
Maybe we are all living in al alternative reality or dimension.
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That’s what I think in a multi universe somewhere we are alive and happy x
Think in the rubbish I have been watching has been too much sci fi. Haven’t been able to watch much rugby as we used to watch together. Makes me too unhappy and I don’t mean just the playing.
We watched a lot of sci-fi . But don’t feel like I can face watching that and even when flicking through if there is a film we watched can’t watch it . I just watch my trashy programmes .
Have problems watching anything that is a modicum challenging. Just watching complete rubbish. Would have driven my husband mad. It’s about all I can take. Can’t watch anything that requires concentration in any form. A man from the council turned up the other day to ask if we had cavity wall insulation and when we moved in. I didn’t know if we had insulation and for a few minutes couldn’t remember when we moved in. This damn widows fog.
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It’s hard to concentrate on TV or anything that requires brain power, I’m very tired a lot of the time!
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I hate Sundays too and today is the 6 months anniversary of my husband’s death. I filled my day - took my mum to see my daughter’s new kittens. She adopted them following the death of her 16 year old westie. Then i picked up a friend and we went to a trial session for a community choir. I really enjoyed it. After that my son and I had a roast tea and a couple of glasses of wine. Now I’m in bed and crying again. I can’t believe I’ve been without him for 6 months. No matter how busy your day is the grief catches up with you.
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