Hating Christmas

I hate Christmas so much !! I used to love it as a kid but during the last 9 years I have had a sudden fall of deaths. My dearest stepfather was suddenly killed in a accident 9 years ago. Then other family members. It’s a day of sadness for me not happiness . It fills me with dread and I cannot stand all the happiness around me like carols etc. I will be just with mum who does not like to embrace emotion is rather cold about it all. How do others cope ?


Hello @Aussie23 ,

I’m so sorry to read about the losses you have suffered in the last 9 years, and how devastating this has been for you. It sounds like you are worried about the festive season, we know that this really can be a tough time of year and you are not alone in dreading its arrival.

I just wanted to reach out to thank you for sharing so honestly and to let you know there is lots of other support out there. I would really encourage you to speak to someone about how you are feeling. The following website might help you find support services closer to home: https://help.befrienders.org/

You deserve care and support, @Aussie23 - keep on reaching out.

Take care,

Hi, I would say you can choose what you want your Christmas to be like, it doesn’t have to be full of sadness. It’s a time of year drenched in expectations and nostalgia but you don’t have to adhere to any of it, unless you want to. Maybe change things around and do some different activities…volunteering perhaps. Anything that gets you through what you see as a difficult time. I hope you find some peace and consolation, maybe even a chance to make new traditions with your Mum? Best wishes xx