So I lost my dad 9th January and I’m taking everyday as it comes literally, I have family come over from the states but I’m not bothered they are here I’m usually excited, but I’m so stressed and want to be on my own so I can cry and being around family makes me realise I no longer have Dad anymore and everyone was okay with me when dad was alive and he said they’d be there and they are but it’s like they don’t care he’s dead. I want to hug him but can’t and I know that and I’ve been to visit him at the funeral place and his chest looks like it’s moving sometimes but it’s not and I haven’t seen him or his ghost or whatever his spirit like no signs and I’m searching and I’m getting nothing back it hurts
Hello @Livia0925,
I’m so sorry to hear about your dad. You’re not alone - many of our members have lost their dads and will understand some of what you’re going through right now.
As well as the online community, offer a range of online bereavement support services that might be helpful to you. You can explore these at sueryder.org/support.
I’m sure someone will be along to offer their support, too, but I just wanted to let you know that you have been heard and are not alone.
Take care,
Seaneen
Hello Livia, so sorry to hear of your loss , just lost my dad 23rd January so I understand how raw it is for you, it’s tough when you feel others don’t feel the same, they maybe trying to be strong for you? Or they may not feel it as bad as you because they didn’t have that special bond that you had with your dad, that’s very special hold on to that, perhaps you could explain that you need a little time/ privacy to really absorb the reality of the situation on your own maybe even just for a few hours at a time? So you can just let go and have a cry and a wail , I did this the other day in the car!! And spoke out to my dad. it’s obviously not a cure all but for a little while I did feel better , feel what you want to feel but as I keep telling myself ( it’s not working yet !! ). Our dad’s wouldn’t want us to be sad x
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