Heart ache

Hi dont think i can cope with anymore of my love ones passing away as lost my dad 3 years ago. Then my mum was burried yesterday and now just find out my hubby mum just pass away last night and still have to be cheerful for christmas and thats hard to do when your heart is broken

Hello @Angel73 ,

I’m so sorry to hear about your loss. Holidays and special occasions can be an especially painful time - and often even more so when they’re the ‘firsts’.

Please know that there is lots of support available if you need it. We have advice and support on coping with grief at Christmas at Coping with grief at Christmas | Sue Ryder.

As well as the online community, offer a range of online bereavement support services that might be helpful to you. You can explore these at Sue Ryder’s Online Bereavement Support | Sue Ryder.

Take good care of yourself,
Alex

Hi Angel,
Sadly, life and loss go hand in hand and we cannot prevent our loved ones from passing away. It can feel like the weight of the world on your shoulders when too much happens, too soon. It can feel like we don’t get a break from loss and grief.
Take each day at a time, dont force any emotions at all. Everyone will be sad that shares christmas with you in your family, so its ok for you to be sad and tearful. Just let it out.
Its much better to allow yourself the time, space and freedom to grieve.

Its my fourth christmas this year without my son, if it wasn’t for my daughters, I’d probably not want bother at all but my son would be furious if i gave up on the celebrations - or living life.

Im sorry to hear of the loss of your Mum, it can be a time of deep uncertainty when we lose our parent. All that we know seems to be gone but im sure over the weeks and months ahead, you will start to see your mum in yourself - they live on within us. We are chips off the old blocks, as they say xx

Hi kjat thank you for your kind works and sorry you lost your son. Its 3 years for my dad. And its my daughter that keep me going aswell or if she was not here we wouldnt do christmas and i didnt think that my mum lives thought me and its hard to smile and wish people happy christmas but im taking each day as it comes but thank u i need the kind works