Hi guys I’m really struggling today almost 6 weeks since I’ve lost my world and the pain today is just crippling me I can’t see any point without my husband. I wouldn’t do anything silly because I have my daughter but I know 100% if I didn’t have her there is absolutely no point
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So sorry Cookie you are feeling like this today. It’s 14 weeks today for me and I’ve had a dreadful weekend too. It’s the hopelessness, heartbreak and lack of motivation.
You are not alone and at least everyone here understands the overwhelming waves of grief that seem to appear on regular basis.
Sending you a big hug 
xx
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9 weeks yesterday for me. It really is a painful experience. Reminders all over of how weekends used to be. I think the thought of ending it all crosses everyone’s mind at some point. It was never a serious possibility for me, probably because I have a daughter who needs looking after, but I can’t deny that I thought it was just one step further than wishing the hours away which is what I do for most of the weekend.
I hope that as I get more used to being me instead of us I will find some joy in life again. At the moment that seems a long way off.
Xx
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Hi Jody so sorry you are in pain too it’s the worst feeling ever isn’t it?
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Hi willow you are so right it’s them that keep us here but in a world where the pain in our heart is crippling
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The absolute worst. I feel guilty that I probably haven’t supported other people who have been widowed in the past, although I thought I had at the time. You can’t possibly know until you’ve experienced it.
That’s why I’ve put off any counselling because unless they too have been widowed it’s just words x
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It is very very early days and it does slowly get better, for now accept the grief, let it in cry, weep moan and know that the terrible feelings you are having are all normal and are part of grieving and healing.
Journaling might help, write to your husband tell him how you are feeling, tell him about your day, good things and bad. Also posting on here and reading other posts is very helpful in helping us all, we are all in the same situation and we all understand.
Let your daughter grieve with you too, you will be helping each other and will both feel closer and more supported.
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I am so sorry.
I wish I had a magic wand and could make it all go away for all of us.
I don’t know if it will help but I take it slowly, that is hour by hour or sometimes it is get through the morning, then the afternoon and so on.
To get through whatever period of time it is,
I try to do things. It may be doing the washing up, vacuuming, perhaps, watch the tv, a bit of gardening.
For me it is about having a break from thinking even if it’s for a small amount of time.
I also come to this site. People understand and are so kind and caring.
We wouldn’t wish this on anybody but sharing with others who truly understand can really help.
Sending a big hug.
Love,
Rose xx
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Hiya Cookie i know the pain its just over 6 weeks for me. And i am alone nothing seems worth it anymore. My house is just a house niw not a home like it was before. My daughter gets married thiss Thursday and i am dreading it not only because of my agrophobia and panic attacks. But also because Gra and I was walking her down the Aisle now its just me.also on friday it would be our 16th wedding anniversary. I sit here all alone and think whats the point anymore. I dont know where all the tears coming from, my heart a hes for his touch and resurring words. Xxx
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It was May i lost my wife and miss her so much
Bless i lost my husband in June so i know what you mean hugs jo xx
Andy’s daughter got married 12 days after Andy died. He would’ve wanted it to go ahead and they knew that. Even if they had postponed it, he would never be there! I didn’t go, it would not have been right but for you, there really is no choice! Gra will be with you every step of the way but is there anyone else you are close to who can be with you physically, even a close girl friend? Lots of deep breaths, slow steps, keep looking forward and be kind and gentle to yourself xx
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