Just like me … i only had 6 weeks to say goodbye and like you say we do what we have to do ! My husband didnt say that to me but i knew … we always had this sort of unspoken love for each other … we didnt need to really say anything … sweet really when i look back at it ! But did manage to tell him i loved him just before the awful end 
he knew though xx
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Yeh i was same ! Was sure some miracle was gonna happen and he would prove drs wrong naive fools we were … ! Xx
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@Deb5 just desperate for them not to go. So sad💔
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Yeh … in denial i suppose ! Plus its an awful thing to face up to anyway … btw you were married same amount of time as me … 35 years ! Xx
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@Deb5 it’s a long time to share your life with someone. Pretty much all my adult life. Xx
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Exactly !!! I wouldn’t swap it for the world though ! He was a kind, fun guy and those 35 years went so fast … 3 kids later … but 60 is too young to go !!! Xxx
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@Deb5 neither would I. I have 1 daughter & a step daughter & 4 beautiful grandchildren. He was a fantastic husband, dad & grandad and is loved very much. Xx
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@Deb5 and @Jan17 He was the strong one! Never ever complained even when he was told the absolute worst news possible! We were not big on the ‘I love you thing’ but more in the way we treated each other. We actually told each other we loved each other more in those 7 weeks then in the 27 years we were together! The day before he died I told him I loved him. He couldn’t speak by then but was trying to so I said I know you love me too! He just blinked his eyes! That meant so much to me. I will love him forever! J x
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Yeh we have 5 granchildren and another on the way … who he will never see it was hard for the little ones to understand ( 5 and 4). Xxx
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@Jax2 so sad. My husband wasn’t able to speak last few days either but they knew they were loved. Xx
Aw …m my husband same ! So bloody brave how he took it ! And he couldnt speak in end either so i said it for him …xxx last words he heard were … i.love you xx
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@Deb5 kids are so resilient. They miss him but they cope much better than the adults. Probably better they don’t fully understand. Xx
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Peter was my second husband and not the biological father to my children but he loved them and they loved him. A few people after the funeral actually said they didn’t know that he wasn’t their natural father. I thought that was a great testament to their relationships! J x
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@Jax2 it certainly is and a something to be proud of. Xx
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They do … but my granddaughter who.is 5 and we used to have every week, i day a week said while mum at work, its funny without grandad here … bless her !!! Xx
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I also told told Peter I loved him as he died. I really hope he heard me! J x
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I know my husband did … cos as i said i love you , i also said do you love me and he tried to say yes … but hard to speak for him … then he went im sure your husband heard you @Jax2 they say hearing is the last to go 
xxx
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@Deb5 @Jan17 It’s been lovely talking to you ladies tonight. Especially as I know you understand! I haven’t felt quite so lonely! Thank you J x
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No worries ! Same here. We all shared similar experiences havent we ? Xxx
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