I’ve just had an email from my godmother, who was a close friend of my Mum’s when they were younger.
I have kept her updated with how I’m feeling as she seemed quite concerned initially (my Mum died 11 weeks ago today).
I sent her a photograph of my Mum’s grave which has flowers, a windchime and some solar lights. She wasn’t able to come to the funeral and I thought she would like to see where it was.
She has emailed me today and amongst other things, has told me that she thinks the texts my Mum and I used to send each other were excessive (we sent lots but so what!!!) and that the decoration on the grave is also excessive and “would your mother have wanted that”.
I am so angry and upset. I can’t reply to her yet or I’ll be very rude.
She doesn’t know the relationship between me and my Mum. Yes, my Mum would have loved what I’ve done with her grave and even if she didn’t, my Mum would want me to do what makes me feel better and making sure her grave looks beautiful and well cared for is very important to me.
How can people be so insensitive?