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Losing a parent
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Hi. I saw this on Instagram and wanted to join. I lost my Mum is June 2024. Trying to navigate in a world without her feels pretty scary. It’s the evenings where I struggle the most :cry: Just wanted to reach out and say hello :wave: x

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Hello yes evenings are very lonely on your own .
It does help to chat on here.

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They definitely are. It’s the time when everything is quiet and brain can feel overwhelmed

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Hello Moonriver85

I’m part of the Online Community team and I can see that you are new to the community. I’m so sorry to hear about your Mum. Most community members have sadly experienced the death of a loved one and so will understand some of what you are going through.

I wanted to share some more Sue Ryder resources which might be helpful.

I really hope you find the community helpful and a good source of support and I also hope you feel you can access more support should you need it.

Thank you again for sharing – please keep reaching out and know that you are not alone.

Take care,
Rhi

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Thank you so much for those links and information. I think it will really help. It can be a lonely time even surrounded by people so it is nice to know platforms like this exist. 🫶🏻

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I’m sorry for your loss Moonriver - grief is an agonising and lonely journey. Especially when you go out in the world and everyone seems to carry on with their normal lives. But your normal has changed forever.

I think the morning and evenings are the hardest times - because being with your own thoughts is difficult. When you tell your brain not to think about it, your brain decides to bring up every single memory it can of that person!

I hope you know you’re not alone, and can come to this forum or thread to talk about your journey or even past memories if it helps.

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100%. I feel like I am still stuck in time. My brain and body feel like they are still
In June when it happened… so when I see the leaves begin to fall snd the world turn brown and orange with Autumn - it is so confusing! There is such a feeling of having to find your feet and a new normal. It’s like you are a different person! I’m just trying to be kind to myself. Morning and nights are by far the toughest. I am having a day today watching movies and resting. My body feels like it is telling me this is what I need.

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@Moonriver85 You are not the only one my evenings are also a struggle because I have a 4 year old son and then his dad is at work most evenings and I am left to do the mother duties with so much on my mind and so much to do.

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@hanzafua Thanks for your message. I am sorry to hear you are alone in the evenings. It is one of the hardest things…. Trying to be a good Mum whilst losing your own :cry:
My husband and I are going to be separating so we are still in house co-parenting but very much feel alone in that respect. Thanks for reaching out.

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@Moonriver85 Your welcome. I feel that sometimes the husbands don’t understand that loosing someone no matter the relationship is a lifetime problem. I feel so lost and empty inside.

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Hi @moonriver I have only just joined this community - I lost my Mum on 8 August and the changing season has hit me hard too. I am struggling to accept Mum is gone, she was only ill for a few weeks so I think I am still processing the shock too. The things I find help are little are journalling as if I am talking to her and tell her stuff I’ve achieved today that would have made her smile, made her proud…her main concern was how my Dad would cope without her and so I also find comfort knowing she’d be really glad I am spending time with him and helping him navigate. I am trying to emulate the brave, kind and accepting lovely lady she was - I find some comfort in that. Take care x

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