Hello everyone, this is my first time sharing, I lost my dad in 2022 and I am struggling, just want someone to talk to who understands xx
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Hi
Sorry for your loss. I lost my dad in 2020. suddenly from a Brain aneurysm. Xx
How are you doing? Xx
Hi I miss him loads. I have had my husband die last year, too, and so I feel I am still riding the grief train since 2020 with no stopping.
I have my son and daughter who are still little, that makes me keep going.
I talk to my dad and imagine him, somehow it helps me to joke with him like we used to. I pretend he’s encouraging me to keep going.
Do you have anywhere you go or anything you can do that helps you feel connected to your Dad?
Sending you all strength and best wishes.
Sorry if I don’t reply straight away, my daughter off school unwell today.
But tell me a bit about how you are feeling?
I have a corner in my lounge with my dad’s photos framed and a dried flower from his funeral roses.
Me and my dad chat a lot and he tries to lift my spirit.
I’m so sorry to hear of your loss of your husband too.
I have a feeling you are like me stronger then we look, and we keep going for others.
I have been told I need to think of myself but I struggle!
What about you?
Are you getting support from your family and friends?
I’m pleased I joined this site and I’m trying to be more positive
Well done for joining the site and reaching out.
Yes others tell me I’m coping well and I’m so strong…. If only they knew. The truth is we are coping. Coping is about finding it hard and managing to muddle through each day despite that.
Remember we are strong because we have the love of our Dads inside us forever.
Your words are totally true, and I am like you and many others we carry on and wear masks to cover up our pain.
I just keep going one day at a time xx
Well done.
For me Sometimes it’s getting through one minute or hour at a time!
Are there any bereavement groups around where you live?
I have been to a few and found it helps just even to have a place to go or an event about grief so I feel I’m doing something productive about my feelings.
Plus sometimes I meet nice people there.
Oh and self care - it is about doing anything that you like to do eg putting on make up, taking a walk, listening to a song. I always thought it had to be a bath because people kept using that as an example! But it can be anything. Even chatting to a friend or making a cuppa.
Xxx
I’m looking for groups around here but struggling , I found one it’s once a month so it’s a start.
Just being with people who understand me would help me.
I’m getting counselling so it’s all a waiting game xx