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Hi, trying to cope with losing dad, my brother, an aunt & having to have our beloved cat put to sleep. Trying to support my mum.

Hello @Besscat,

I’m part of the Online Community team and I can see that you are new to the community - I’d like to thank you for bravely starting this thread and sharing how you are feeling. I’m so sorry to hear about the loss of three of your family members and your cat. Most community members have sadly experienced the death of a loved one and so will understand some of what you are going through.

I’m sure someone will be along to offer their support, but I wanted to share a few Sue Ryder resources with you that might be helpful.

You might also want to look at Blue Cross Pet Bereavement Support service - 0800 096 6606 or

I really hope you find the community helpful and a good source of support and I also hope you feel you can access more support should you need it.

Thank you again for sharing – please keep reaching out and know that you are not alone.

Take care,


Hi Besscat - life can really be devastating cant it. Im so sorry to hear of your losses and it must be dreadful having to cope and support your mum through this horrible time. It seems like you are just getting on with life ok and then everything falls apart. I lost my partner of 36 years back in March - we were both grieving over having our adored cat of 16 put to sleep last October. I recently moved house to try and start again on my own but have quickly realised ‘home’ really is where the heart is and i now feel cast adrift and hate my new situation. I dont know how you will cope with your new situation but supporting your mum will help stay focussed. I wish you all the best - try and stay strong. Xx

Hi Erindoors, many thanks for replying to me. I am sorry for your loss. As you know life is very hard and not fair and there are no words to describe the pain of losing loved ones. I expect like you mum has good days & bad days and life seems very hard. We try to muddle through the best we can. All we can do is put one foot in front of the other and try to carry on.

Yes - we can only take one day at a time. Hope you and mum have more good days than bad. X