Help 😭

:sob: today, my dad basically told me he wants to sell the house. Legally I part own it, but he said he can take me to court, & get a judge to force a sell. My dad has been verbally & mentally abusive with me all year, this feels like the last straw in a line of last straws. I’m scared of being made homeless. I have health problems that are aggravated by stress, so all this is just going to make me more ill, :sob::sob::sob::sob::sob::sob::sob::sob::sob::sob::sob::sob::sob::sob::sob::sob::sob::sob::sob::sob:. What makes it all worse, as it’s the weekend, I can’t even get advice from citizens advice, or anything till Monday morning, so again, for the 100th time this year, dad has stressed me passed breaking point, left me feeling suicidal, & then left me completely on my own in the house, while he goes off to his girlfriend’s, :woman_facepalming:t2::pensive:. It’s not ok! It’s not ok for him to treat me like this. I have family members I can phone, but at the end of the day, they can only really offer moral support, & occasionally hugs. My mom passed away 2 years ago, I’m special needs, mom used to be the one to look after me, & help me with these kinds of things, I’m vulnerable, I need support, I need help, & I need my mom :sob::sob::sob::sob::sob::sob::sob::sob::sob::sob::sob::sob::sob::sob::sob::sob::sob::sob:. My boyfriend is an absolute sweetheart, but he lives with his parents, so moving in with him isn’t an option :pensive:. It’s all such a mess, & because it’s Saturday, I can’t do anything till Monday morning. Tomorrow especially is going to be torture, 24 hours with nothing to do but stress & worry about it. As for the future, I feel I don’t have one, with too greater chance of being made homeless, :pensive::sob::woman_facepalming:t2:. My dad must really hate me to be putting me through all this.
I love my boyfriend very much, I have waited a lifetime to meet him, & he was well worth the wait, he is the only thing stopping me from giving in to my suicidal thoughts, because I know it would break his heart, :sob::broken_heart:.


Sorry for your situation. I think you will find that if you own part of the house he can’t sell without your consent. Try Google for some information it might put your mind at rest till you can get legal advice. Did your mum make a will not being nosey but if she left part to you then thats a legal document. Try not to worry he’s perhaps just saying that to get a response it a big thing to sell and move so much stress . Hope you can get the right answers asap.


Hi @Misprint,
Thank you for your reply, my portion was gifted to me when mom & dad made their wills so it’s in my name, but it’s a “residential ownership” which means he can take me to court, we both make our cases, & it’s up to the judge to decide, if he rules to force a sale, there’s nothing I can do

I don’t pretend to know anything about British law, but even if they force a sale you would presumably have a relatively large cash windfall to use for a new start. Perhaps with your boyfriend?

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Hi @AceHigh ,
My portion of the house is not large enough, I would get an estimated 5 figure sum, not enough to buy with, in theory would be the right side for a deposit, if only I could get the money to buy with, but being on benefits, I can’t even get a mortgage because I would be classed as a liability, :pensive:. I know you’re trying to help, thank you for that, sending hugs.

@Pandaprincess Hi so so sorry you find yourself in this position, it must be incredibly stressful. My wife was on long term ESA before she passed and we looked into mortgages some time ago. We never went forward with it for various reasons but we did discover that you can get mortgages on benefits. I’ve linked an article that goes into in more depth and if you google there will be more info out there, if you have a deposit it may be a route that is open to you. Take care and good luck

Benefits and Mortgages

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Thank you @Walan for this info, I’ll look into it :+1:t2:.

Hi, I had something happen today, that I wanted to share, this morning I spoke to citizens advice, as I was walking back to my boyfriend’s house, there was a busker, he sang listen to the rhythm of the falling rain, as I walked into the square where he was singing, it was that moment that he sang, “the only girl I care about has gone away, looking for a brand new start, little does she know that when she left that day, along with her she took my heart,” it may sound nutty, but I could sense my mom, (passed away 2 years ago,) & I felt she was saying, “it’s time for me to make a new start, in a new home,” :heart:.