I just leave this here for you to mull over. Some come here to take only, ie they want support in their darkest hour and then their name vanishes, never to be seen again!
If I can help people I will, sometimes in order to heal you have to help someone else. We all lost in our new life’s, it’s even harder for me. As sometimes it’s like what’s best carrying on living or pre paring for death ? we all are kind of pre paring for death, some are, some can’t face the prospect. My mum was like this which left me with a fair bit of work to do when mum passed. It had to be done, and I wanted to do it! It was my time to take care of mum just like she had throughout my life. But what do I do now ? what’s my purpose ? Why am I still here ? I have to have a incentive to step onto the next blocks of life. If I can’t find them then what’s the point ?
I’m so sorry for the loss of your mum. Thank you for sharing this with us. I’m just giving your thread a gentle, “bump” for you - hopefully someone will have some thoughts to share.
Hi there Keith68
Im sorry for your loss and glad that you were a good son to your mother.
What was your life like?? Were you always her carer? Have you taken up the mantel and are you continuing with your life whilst helping others?
Helping people where you can is always good. I like to hope that everyone tries to do at least one good thing every day. We all know someone who needs help if not there are many voluntary organisations where you can help others.
Good luck with your different direction and getting help with your loss.
Take care
I tried to be, do I have regret yes, I was close to mum for the majority of my life. I know what people are going through on here, you have to experience it to understand it. People on here will be feeling so much anxiety, sadness, depression, loneliness, isolation, debt, shock, suicidal, the list goes on. They say there’s strength in numbers and we have to believe that’s true.