new to this site.my partner passsed away a few months ago and I guess like everyone who finds themselves in this awful situation I was caught up in dealing with all the practical things that needed to be done. Then, I did’nt just hit a brick wall,It completely floored me. The actual pain of loss was so hard to bear and still is. I have read some of the posts on here and they make me feel so sad for the grief that other people are also going through,but I hope there is light at the end of the tunnel
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Hi … i was same as you. After the funeral and the plans for it completely floored me too ! Reality hit home 
i think im still reeling 17 months on in many ways but it does slowly get easier to bear i suppose. Bad days and good days i be honest xx
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Hi @maggi7
I know exactly how you feel, like we all do on here.
How are we going to go on, how are we going to cope?.
Last night I had a dream. I was crying my eyes out (as usual) and then Roger put his arm round me and told me everything would be ok and to carry on. I keepwondering if it was a sign from him.
I still have good and bad day’s . But thats only normal, apparently.
Big hugs to you
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Thankyou for a), reading this post and b),your reply. I never thought I would need any kind of help,right? I was always a strong person. had to be.but this has knocked me sideways and still not sure what I am doing on here.Maybe sharing with people I have never met is easier?
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I have never dreamt of my husband yet though my sleep is not normal just with the help of some tablets so I don’t know if it would be a comfort to dream about him
I hope you have more good day’s than bad and can find a way to move forward. Surely this site is what that is all about,being there for everyone to share their grief.but also sharing steps forward however small,and how we achieved it
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So sorry for your loss ,i lost my husband January this year so i feel your pain , when you are grieving it is like you will never get used to losing someone you loved, but you will get through your loss ,i still miss my husband so much and it will get better for you in time. Think of the good memories you shared together.
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Thankyou.I will
No worries. I know what its like and yeh i was the strong one before too and its knocked me sideways too ! We sound very similar. But dont forget the deeper the love the deeper the loss. Take care and keep sharing on here xx
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I am glad i have been of some help for you
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Hi maggi7 it doesn’t get any easier but day by day we do our
Best to keep going. I’ve been trying to keep busy but then you
Stop and your mind wanders again to your loved one and it’s
Painful but hopefully with time it will it will get better. The nights
Are the worst for me alone in a empty house and that’s when the
Tears start.I know how you feel and my heart goes out to you
Take care Maggi7 sending a big hug 
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So sorry for your loss. We all here are going through the same sad and painful journey and thanks to this wonderful site that we are given a chance to share our grief and support one another. Over 13 months in for me, the pain is still there as if it only happened yesterday. Please hang in there, try take one day at a time and keep sharing.
Take good care xx
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Hi Maggie1981Thankyou so much for your thoughts,I know the night time feeling,seems so much lonelier right? I find i can’t listen to certain songs or musicians, because it just makes a huge heavy sadness in my heart I try to listen to my music,not my partners, as we had very different tastes and that helps me to sleep which I know,given time it will ease
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Thankyou Maggi7 aww it’s one of the worst feelings when you hear
Your songs been played. I cry every time I hear Love is in the Air it was one song that we loved . It’s hard but they are memories that will always stay with you. Keep going day to day Maggi and time is a great healer we will carry on with our lives the best we can Big hug stay strong xx
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