My dad passed away 6 weeks ago but I became his main carer for around 10 months prior to this.
I felt like I wasn’t grieving at first but this week it’s hit me like a tonne of bricks.
Ive had to be the one to arrange the house clearing and moving items -
My brother however has done hardly anything but seems to be wanting the pat on the back when he does something minor.
Just looking a lot somewhere to chat 
Hello @NorthernSoulie74,
I’m part of the Online Community team and I can see that you are new to the community - thank you for having the courage to share this with us. I’m so sorry to hear about your dad. Many of our members have sadly experienced the death of a loved one, so you’re among people who understand some of what you’re going through.
I’m sure someone will be along to offer their support. In the meantime, you may wish to look at these Sue Ryder resources which might be helpful.
Our Grief Guide self-help platform which has information, resources and advice to help you through your grief
Our Bereavement Information pages which can walk you through what you are going through.
Our Losing a parent page talks through some of the emotions you may be experiencing
I really hope you find the community helpful and a good source of support and I also hope you feel you can access more support should you need it.
Thank you again for sharing – please keep reaching out if you feel able to, and know that you are not alone.
Take care,
Alex
Hi, I feel similar, I’m 8 months in and I’m at a stage where I just just feel annoyed all of the time, not necessarily about dad, just angry at the world! Everything seems a bit trivial now! I found the first months easier than now, as now everyone expects you to be okay and I’m really not! I do all the right things, therapy, making memory boxes, talking to dad, trying to eat well, sleep well etc, but I just feel rubbish still which makes me cranky!
Same here I’m 8 months in and it’s not getting easier I have lots of unanswered questions nobody tells you how hard it is
I feel like I have so many plates to juggle -
Then deal with my emotions, I’ve completely hit rock bottom this week. My body emotions have come like a tsunami and I feel nothing or no one can help me
Yes I have days that .you know at some point someone will go that’s life but it’s still hard when it happens
Hi, Sorry for your loss. I lost my father 5 months ago. I am so lost. My rock was my Pyrenean Mountain dog but I lost him at the same time. Only people that have lost a loved one know how mentally and physically exhausting it is. I have just joined as I need to share and talk to other people going through this very hard time. Like you I was left to do all the care etc..