Watched some of the Coronation and it was strange to think and realize my partner died 5 mths after the Queen and 2mths before the King’s Coronation. How did that happen? The Queen 94 and King 74 yet my Jim was only 63. How can the past / future
of today outlive his life. He was only saying to me a few weeks back how it will be the first coronation we will see and probably a second when William is crowned. It’s these moments that my brain can’t cope.
He is part of history now too
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@SP60 I had similar thoughts when I visited my wife’s memorial bench just now. She was born about a fortnight before Elizabeth 2’s coronation and died 7 weeks after the Queen: she reigned for over 70 years and Di was 69.
I have had a hard time processing that too. Doesn’t seem to make any sense. Hugs xxxxx
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You’ve made me think and remember… My husband died 15 days before the Queen. And his funeral was 3 days before hers.
When she died so many people kept telling me how sad it was about he Queen and how sad it made them!!!
And the same for her funeral!
I didn’t actually care at all about the Queen (sorry) I was too upset about my husband to care about anyone else, especially someone I didn’t know personally!!
I hated it, I didn’t want to hear about how sad it was about the Queen…I wanted all their attention on being sad about my husband.
I’d forgotten about those feelings I had.
Hugs 
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Sending you hugs and i agree with you
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@Mike75 I’m glad I’m not the only one who has these strange thoughts. It’s also hit home that the past has truly gone, we now may not see the future so we have to live in the present moment which is a kind of none existence if that makes any sense? I am trying not to plan too far ahead but then life seems far less enjoyable without plans…I retire next year (fingers crossed) but dreading long drawn out days/nights etc so have to have some kind of plan to keep busy. Is that what life is now, keeping busy?
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How you coping Martyn?
@SP60
I too had this thought and it took me back to the conversation I had with Rich about how we will probably see two. Sods law he didn’t get to even see 1!
Made my stomach churn, as many things do these days.
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@SP60 You put it perfectly. The past IS truly gone, we can’t see the future so we have to live in the present. That has always been the case but we are usually blissfully unaware of it. Bereavement reveals it to us in a stark way, it is an epiphany for us.
It doesn’t mean you can’t make plans and have hope though. It is just when you do so, you do it in the context of this reality and without your loved one. xxxxx
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I’ve been thinking a lot about timelines today as well. Can’t believe I sat and watched some of the queens funeral with my dad and partner. From then to the king’s coronation I have lost both of them 
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A bit better .doctors upped the antidepressants and got me some counselling starting Tuesday morning at 10.00am .thank you sarlyn
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I thought the same, my husband was 61 and thought we’d be sat together yesterday watching everything and he missed out. I’m 55 and can’t believe I’m on my own. I just can’t work out how to have a future that isn’t completely alone. I have a 21 year old daughter who is very mindful of leaving me on my own too much but I want her to carry on with life and to enjoy it as much as possible. She’s going on holiday soon for 2 weeks and I’m trying to fill my time as much as possible because I know I won’t cope otherwise.
@Doughtyj send you a big hug, I lost my dad and husband within a year and it’s tough dealing with so much loss xx
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@Lucy55 my son is 22 and is struggling with losing his dad at such a young age. He is now planning to go on a holiday which I have encouraged though going to hate him not being at home. When he goes out at the weekend I find myself waiting up for him to come home. Last week was 4.30am in the morning. So wish that I still had my husband here. So unfair 
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I have been feeling the same this weekend. I lost my best friend in February. One of our last days before he got sick was watching the Queen’s funeral. It was all so sudden I find it hard to believe he was’nt here for the coronation.
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Hello
So sorry you have had to join our sad, but incredibly supportive community.
Sending lots of love and hugs
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