After losing my husband a straight red is a walk in the park, I am learning great strength comes with grief… and pettiness of others has no place on my radar
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In the words of U2 with or without you
Well, I am sick of being in Room 101.
I don’t want to do a Queen Victoria and spend the rest of my life miserable. My daughter needs a happy home life because she doesn’t understand grief. I want my friends and relatives to keep visiting because they enjoy our company. I don’t want my son to feel as if he has to be on suicide watch constantly because I am perennially sad. I want to be happy again. That doesn’t involve finding a new partner or trying to replicate what I have lost. Though anyone that does has my congratulations.
I would gladly give all I own to have my husband back, but it isn’t going to happen, no matter how much I cry.
I will carry on trying to find some joy in life, something to laugh about each day.
For me, the old adage “laugh and the world laughs with you, cry and you cry all alone” resonates.
I don’t want to be alone.
I cry every day, and that’s ok, because I love and miss him. But I fight really hard not to cry in company.
Everyone that knows me also knows how deeply we loved each other. If anybody thinks that me being cheerful means I got over him too quickly, or that laughter is inappropriate. Well, that’s their problem, not mine.
Onwards and upwards. Xx
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Oh you bugger of to the sleazy biker bar for a couple of hours leaving us poor sods to carry on and then without a by your leave jump back in.
Seriously your points do resonate.
Love Ron.
I have been on mummy duty. We had to have jacket potatoes, then I had to dance around to Chas and Dave.
Not exactly sleazy. I remember sleazy, but only just!
Xx
We don’t grieve any less than anyone else and we don’t have to explain how we deal with our grief either and I don’t intend to become Miss Haversham in Great Expectations, I hate cobwebs for starters and if I can make someone smile then that’s a good thing right? We are not all each others cup of tea but if that’s the case there is a wonderful button that allows you to scroll on by and that way nobody has the need to take offence. Funny people grieve to and have feelings but maybe their intentions are to lift people up not pull them down so I agree with Jane, onwards and upwards
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