My husband passed away may 2022 its been hard. Cant sleep properly crying and not eating very well either i used to bake alot thats stopped. The only comfort i get is my big garden when the weather is good. I love my garden and he made me trugs for growing veggies. Which i love. When i get really low i buy myself some plants for the garden and it helps a bit.
The massive contribution i found was beekeeping. Its therapeutic for me. I also get honey this year too.
Im still struggling though but nice weather does help a bit as i am an outdoor person not going out but a gardener.
Growing and producing makes me in a better mindset and wears me out for a sleep but that doesnt last long. Hopefully will settle as time goes on.
Going to bed i cant do at the mo i cant seem to muster going upstairs i have said to my daughter i will in time. Where my husband passed away i need to strip that room but cant even do that yet. Its bee nso hard just to try and live no matter do things at the moment to live properly.
I hope this helps somebody who is in the same situation as me.
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Thanks so much for sharing this with us, @Gardener1. We have lots of avid gardeners on the community - hopefully you can connect with each other. We also have a garden at the RHS Flower Show this year which some of our members contributed to with their suggestions:
Thanks again for sharing this with us 
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I’ve just planted a rose bush my colleagues from work got me when mam passed in January. She loved her gardening and did most of it till she got to 82. I’ve just got a big square piece of grass and no experience of gardening, but I’m hoping this year to get started with some plants and bushes. I know she’d love that and I’ll feel like im being an extension if her
Take care 
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Your mum would appreciate that. You take care too and happy gardening.
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Pixiecat a very close friend of myself and sue sent me a rose plant to honour my gorgeous beautiful late wife sue.it helps me to carry on fighting for life and I will honour my promise to sue
I really don’t like gardening at all . I loved to watch my husband as he did the garden . And was always there willing to make him a coffee. Our garden is tiny , really tiny . I have had to try and keep it looking tidy , this past two years . A few months after he died. I was in the garden trying to sort it out . A neighbour who used to talk to my husband about gardening came past and commented that I was doing a good job . I said if Chris was watching me ,he would be saying WTF are you doing . …This year I have noticed daffodils , tulips , bluebells and crocus all coming through , I never planted them . So I am believing they are a gift from my husband , what he must if planted before he died . Xtake carex
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This is my rose bush
Im hoping it survives my potting
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This is my new rose bush, im hoping it grows well
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This is my new rose bush, hopefully it will grow
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We both loved gardening. I did the flowers, and my husband did the veg. He had 3 allotments, but was planning to give one up to give him more time. Well the having more time didnt happen.
I have kept 2 plots, and am planning to grow veg and flowers this year. I have realised how little knowledge i actually have about veg. It was brought home, and i cooked it! It will be a trial year for me, but the allotment is where I feel closest to my husband.
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Oh thanks I’ve decided to do something about my garden, its a new build so a blank canvas. Mam’s garden was lovely so insead of decorating inside I’m switching to the outside
Thanks for replying xx
Enjoy your garden you will find a lot of happiness in it. When things get tough go outside in your own little oasis. It works.
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Thank you my mam did her own garden until she was 82
