Feeling so low just everything seams to be getting on top of me I’m going on my first holiday without john it’s somewhere we always went together twice a year I know I need to do this but I really don’t know how I will feel x
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I understand what you mean about ‘needing’ to do it. My mum and I always made a trip 2-3 times a year to ‘our’ place and last time I was there that’s when she took ill and high unfortunately saw her pass away about 10 days later. Like you I don’t know what it will be like but I understand the need to go.
I admire you for having the strength to do it and I hope you get from it whatever you need/want.
I won’t say have a good time but I send you blessings for your trip 
Suzanne x
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Hi mandy I feel the same my daughters are planning forvis to go away for caroles my late wife’s birthday and I get nervous just thinking about it. This will be my first holiday since she passed in August. My thoughts are with you and just remember that John would have wanted you to carry on and I’m sure it will bring back happier memories.
John
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We booked a holiday for May to celebrate my 60th before Jim died now I don’t know if I can go on my own without Jim. I have to decide soon as the balance is due early March can I still go I don’t know it’s to Jim’s favourite place cornwall where we went many times . If I go I know it will be sad and if I don’t go it will be sad so I can’t win either way . Then September we have another one booked to Devon so hard to make all the decisions 
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I think Jim would want you to go just think of all your good memories you had there x
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Thats what worries me . Just be thinking about jim being with me going to same cafe where jim once sat bet this sounds silly but can I walk along sea front where we once walked
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Our holiday in September is where we go every year to same park in Devon the welcome in Dawlish and meet up with our dear friends from Bristol so that ones still going ahead
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Misprint.
It is 3 and a half years since my Ron died and I can’t even bear to think about going to the holiday places we visited.
The thought of a holiday without him makes me feel sick simply because of all our wonderful memories. I can’t even think about walking through the airport without my husband.
Why do we need to put ourselves through these tasks. I will go when I am 100 per cent ready and not a day before. Xxx
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Well today I made the hard decision to cancel my holiday in May . I felt that it wasn’t the right time to go I wouldn’t enjoy it without jim and it would be a waste of money. Now I’m made the decision I feel a lot calmer I was getting very stressed about it, should I go, shouldn’t I go well it’s decided now and I should get my deposit back as I had insurance
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I know exactly what you mean…my husband passed away on 10th August last year after only 8 weeks 4 days of being I’ll
He told me to live laugh smile.be happy travel and go to our timeshare in Tenerife.
We have 2 set weeks in February and I’ve just got back…I done it for him, it wasn’t easy so many memories and people asking where my husband was…my daughter and her family came for one week and a friend came for 5 days so I had 2 days alone it was awful…but…i done it
Coming home was awful and i haven’t been great since I’ve been back…its the reality again and the loneliness…but I didn’t realise that I needed to relax and I did.
So I’d say go, relax and give yourself a break…take care x
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My husband died four months ago. My son has booked a holiday in June for us to go where we went when the children were little. I want to go but also dread it. I don’t think we can do right or wrong in these situations but I am trying not to say no to everything. My father in law died 14 years ago and his wife has rarely left the house since. I understand her now but also know how much harder she made my husband’s life. What ever you decide I hope you get through and take care of yourself.
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Sharon60 well I tried to cancel the holiday we booked last year for this May and was told I wouldn’t get deposit back nearly £500 so mum and i decided to go for a week as this would cover it before it was 2 weeks. So we are goin to Cornwall In May. be a nice break after the last few months we have had but in a way I’m dreading it as it was Jim’s favourite place expecially St ives. I said maybe we can go different places and avoid the usual ones. Whatever happens I will try and enjoy it for Jim’s sake. Plus its better then losing all our deposit money.
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I’m going for a weekend to Portugal with my daughters for what would have been my wife’s birthday (we were going to have a memorial but I didn’t think I could handle the pressure/sadness),it a funny/scary feeling planning to go away without her as we went everywhere together on one hand I’m looking forward to a bit of sun and on the other the scary sad thought of being alone 
it’s one of them horrible firsts I’ll see how this goes and if ok I’ll see about going without my daughters.
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Oh bless ya, so hard isnt it your right, there is no right or wrong really we just have to try…I’m sure you will have a nice time with lots of emotions, from my experience, I didn’t know I was so tense, so it was a relief to relax, yes, it was extremely hard but it’s another first, and there are so many of those aren’t there.
I’m sure your husband, like mind, would want you to go and enjoy yourself, I know it feels wrong but we do have to try …like we do everyday. Take care of yourself…x
Your so right in what youve said, I hope you have a good time, enjoy, that’s what life is about usnt it and your wife will be proud and pleased for you. I was going to have a week alone but, I’m glad I only had two days alone before my friend Julia came, it was awful sitting in a restaurant alone was awful, I don’t think I will do it alone again, might change…but!!
Take care
That’s not silly its totally understandable…hopefully you’ll be able to do those things one day…