Good evening all,
This coming Sunday I’m off to the Gran Canaria for 10 days with my son and family, it will be my first proper holiday without Christine and don’t really know what to expect. I have a feeling certain things will trigger sadness, hopefully it will prove to be helpful for me, I feel a guilt about going on holiday but am getting encouragement from family and friends alike. I am on the other hand looking forward to a bit of sun I keep getting told I deserve it and need a break.
Good evening all,
@Braztash56 I went on holiday last Month to Minorca. I was meant to be going with my husband who suddenly and unexpectedly died at Christmas at the age of 53. We were going with his best friend and his wife who is a good friend of mine. I decided to still go and my best friend came instead as well as my husband best friend and wife who we had previously booked with. There was lots of tears and a couple of meltdowns especially when the evening entertainment came on as I find music a massive trigger. My friends were very supportive and understanding. Every night we toasted my husband and got him his favourite drink. When the evening entrainment came on my friends asked me if I wanted to play games inside which I did every night. The hardest part was coming home back to reality and knowing that my husband wouldn’t be at home. Be prepared for that if you can. At times the holiday was a distraction. I glad that I went though very hard at times. Maybe the holiday wouldn’t been so hard if I hadn’t booked it with my husband prior.
I lost my husband in March this year and have just been on a holiday with my son, daughter in law and the 3 children, 18,17 and 13. Yes there were moments of sadness but I had an amazing time. We did some things that my husband and I would never have done with just the two of us. We went to a water park, played ball in the pool and has fun jumping the waves on the beach. Yes the holiday was very different to the site seeing holidays I had with my husband but to was truly amazing and I hope my grandchildren will remember their game for anything Grandma for many years to come! Just go for it! X
I find this very brave Hazel and have total admiration for you,I did a memorial to our favourite place in Palmanova shortly after Christine had passed which was tough but has given me the strength to know I can go back on my own next year which I wouldn’t have thought possible.
Thanks for sharing your experience and for the pointers for my return xx
Thank you Jax2 a brave thing to have done and thank you for sharing with me, my Grandchildren are a 7yr old boy and a 15yr old girl and apparently have an itinerary set out for me. X
Hi, I am going to Spain for just a few days on Saturday. I also feel guilt but at the same time feel like I need it. I lost my husband in March. I am actually looking forward to it, just getting away, sitting on a beach and people watching from the bars/cafes. It has also been a distraction something else to think of.
Morning, that will be lovely and enjoy
Lou 33 yes I felt the same. Something to look forward to. I’m going to see my sister for a few days at the weekend. Drive will be difficult without my husband but I’m taking my granddaughter and the dog. Just be prepared, coming back is difficult. Have a lovely time. X
I would say go and enjoy and yes there will be times when your thoughts are elsewhere
I went to thailand last year with my daughter her husband and grandaughter lots of fun but the highlight was a blessing by a temple monk on the 2 year anniversary of my wifes death which made me think of the good times
Thank you x
Thank you, hope you have a nice time at your sister’s x
I think it’s a good thing that some of you are brave enough to go on holiday.
When I’m wallowing in self pity I sometimes think of the never agains. These pale into comparison against the never again will he hug me and all that sort of thing, but never again will I go on holiday. My 22 year old son won’t want to go on holiday with me until many years later when he has children perhaps and by then my MS will have completely nobbled me. We were going to book a Nordic type cruise. H loved holidays so much. Got such absolute joy out of every second which made them even more brilliant for me. My uncle in his 80s goes on cruises alone after his wife died about 10 years ago. What a courageous man. He just marches up to people and introduces himself. Oh lord I’ve always been the shy one in my marriage. I couldn’t do that for a million pounds. Braztash you DO deserve it and you DO need a break and also you will make your son and family very happy because people are desperate to do something to help. It’s a kindness to let them I think…even if you don’t want or need any help!
Liz far never say never! I’ve been looking at holidays for single/solo travellers! Not actually had the courage to book one yet but think it would be good to go with other people also on their own. My husband and I had so many plans and although I’m finding it difficult I’m not ready to just give up yet. He would be very disappointed in me if I did!
Oh Lizfar, I’m hoping deep in my heart that you will have a change of heart, thank you for your words of encouragement, I will take them with me and one day you will have the strength to book that holiday xx
The same with Christine, she will be 100% behind me going @Jax2 X