Hi. I’m sure this has been covered a thousand times but I’m looking for advice / guidance / experiences please. My wife passed in April ‘24 and I’ve been a lost soul since then. We had a touring caravan and would disappear for a week or so as many times as we could afford. I’ve not been on holiday since because I ‘m a fairly non-gregarious kind of guy and haven’t even got the bottle to sit in a pub on my own, so the thought of taking myself on holiday is alien in the extreme! But. Just recently it occurred to me that I’m spending my weekdays (at work) waiting for the weekend, then my weekend waiting to go back to work. I need to break that cycle but I cannot envisage any way I’m going to get up the nerve to do it. Anyone? Thanks x
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Well, I’m in the same situation. Mark and I went house and pet sitting all over the place. It’s not so fun at all on your own. Other people on here have been on solos holidays, ie group holidays for people on their own. I might look at one, but would be very nervous. Not very good in groups.
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I just work from home about 5hrs a week, so have to meet people by doing social things. I have just tried new groups: walking group, book group, friendship group, bereavement group. Not met a special friend yet, but it gets me out. Good luck.
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Hi @puddin
I am in exactly the same place as you. Lost my husband in january 2024.
I work from.h9me and like yourself socialising on my own is terrifying thought and i havent yes done this.. I have booked a solo holiday in june to go to spain and am absolutely terrified about it, but also like you I need to do something to break the cycle
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Sorry hadn’t finished typing pressed the wrong button 
If youre like me I did everything with my husband so even doing things on my now is a new concept.
Happy to chat if you want to
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I went on holiday on my own to Spain 10 months after my husband died. I went to a place we had gone to so that I had some familiarity but did things he wouldn’t have done - early morning walks on the beach, dance class, shows he wouldn’t have liked and long walks. It was hard work but I only went for 3 nights and it showed me that it was something I was capable of doing. Mealtimes and sitting on the balcony were difficult as we would have done that together, but no more difficult than it is every day at home. I would do it again and am looking for places to go this year. I would suggest going for a short break and dont expect too much from yourself. 
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Thats great you going alone ..we do have to step out of our comfort zones .
We loved and worked for holidays and i know colin would want me to live life to the full ..not ready yet but hoping i will in the future x
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So comforting to know that I am not the only one feeling unsure and apprehensive of travelling solo! I’ve managed to go away a few times since my soulmate passed in May 2023 and every time before going I would be fretting over it but once I was there I felt more relax! I talked to him everyday while out and about as if he was by my side everywhere I was, saw everything I was seeing, enjoyed everything I was trying to enjoy… and that helped enormously! Take care everyone 
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I was also thinking about solo holidays, but like others on here it seems a daunting task. Pity we appear to be all around the country as we could support each other.
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I think I would try a Solos holiday or something like that. They specialise
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I am going on a coach trip to spain in june uts with leger holidays take a look im terrified but am going to make myself do this
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I have often wondered about holidays going forward. I have heard the sole holidays are very good as they are organised and a person helps you make friends while you are on holiday .Like many here I would be anxious about going. It’s only 4 months since my husband passed away . So I am not ready for a holiday this year .maybe a weekend away back end of the year would be nice . I know I’m going to feel it in summer when everyone starts going on holiday. But I am not .
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Just booked with ‘Just You’, a solo holidays specialist, for a short trip in March to Reykjavik to see the northern lights! Fingers-crossed it goes okay 
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That’s sounds good, hope it works out for you . You’ll have to let us know how you get on
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Im going to Spain in june solo holiday with leger coaches.
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Hope it goes well for you ,let us know how you get on
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I am quite a shy person, i didn’t/don’t have many friends and those i have don’t share my interests so figured quite young i’d have to go to stuff alone or not go at all. I’d rather have someone to go with but i’d rather go to a gig/holiday alone than not go. What i hate about holidays is pricing - you pay for 2 even tho you’re solo.
There are advantages to travelling alone - you set your own schedule/intenary. I’m usually the organiser and feel responsible for everyone having a good time so holidaying alone avoids that.
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How brave to admit how you feel and ask on here. I have forced myself to go on holiday alone since my husbznd dued 3 years ago. Can’t say completely easy. It isn’t. However, it isn’t all bad either. Still get srewed up. Have go ask for help. Sometimes people chat in places like swimming pool changing rooms. Maybe trying something new. I was useless at archery but it caused a laugh when the rabbits ran out of the way. I can do adventure golf doesnt on own worth £5. Pottery class not very great either but felt calming kneading it. I take my kit of distraction on holiday e.g. knitting, sketch pad, reading, note book, x words., camera. My parents went on holiday alone.
My fathwr wrote poetry
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Thank you @Sherbet10 will certainly do x