My wee wife earned her wings back in February. I’ve had many ups and downs. Yesterday a wee thought has came to the front. And is driving me round the bend we live in a small house that would not have the space to have had my wife’s coffin at home. The thing is that all I’m thinking is that I should have had her at home. All I’m thinking is that I let her down. Everyone I have explained this to has said I done the wife proud. Has anyone else ever think like this
I’m so sorry that you have lost your wife @Blueman. The answer to your question is yes, Ive felt similar things and wonder if I let my mum down, but people tell me I did my best for her. I think that finding things to feel guilty about is a big part of the grieving process. Even if we’ve done our very best, we will probably always find something that we think we should have done better.
But these thoughts that trouble us like this are just our own personal thoughts arising from loss and grief. It truly sounds as though you did the best thing by your wife to have the coffin where others could easily come together to pay their respects and give you support, which I’m sure your wife will have wanted for you. So please do trust those you’ve spoken to who tell you that you’ve done your wife proud, you really haven’t let her down. Hoping that you’ll find comfort in happy memories of your life together because that is what is really important for you and your dear wife xx
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Thank you for your kind words. I was very lucky I spent 40 years with Ann.she stood beside me no matter what I had done. I just can’t face going on. She was my everything. On our wedding day she was my princess but she was queen of my heart and always will be
Nothing will ever change that @Blueman, your Ann will always be with you. Please be gentle with yourself, just take it day at a time, moment by moment. Try to keep going just in small steps, doing things you think would make her happy, and please keep posting if it helps.
Take care xx