I did a course called Grieving on CALM by Dr. Joanne Cacciatore last year when I lost my one and only. The course taught me that Extraordinary love = Extraordinary grief. The course taught me to wrap my love around my grief in a special place for us. I had forgotten that for a while. It will help me again. I hope this poem helps you to.
By Donna Ashworth
LOVE CAME FIRST
You don’t move on after loss, but you must move with.
You must shake hands with grief, welcome her in, for she lives with you now.
Pull her a chair at the table and offer her comfort.
She is not the monster you first thought her to be.
She is love. And she will walk with you now, stay with you now, peacefully, if you let her.
And on the days when your anger is high, remember why she came, remember who she represents. Remember.
Grief came to you my friend because love came first.
Love came first.
I found this comforting this morning. It just shows that our love was as strong as we thought it was. We saw the strength of Phil’s love for me when I was seriously ill and nearly died, it was nearly to much for him to bear.
Also for anyone who has lost their Mum, I helped care for my Mum who has lung cancer in 2016 while I was fighting bowel cancer. I hope this poem helps you too.
Miss Me Most by Donna Ashworth “to the women”.
When you feel you are without me, close your eyes.
Float down beneath your skin, retreat within.
I am the blood that flows, I am the courage in your gut that grows.
I am the chamber in your heart that feels like home.
I am the seed from which your life was proudly grown.
Only my body has flown. But me, I dwell still within your bones.
My voice and all the good I’ve ever known, is yours to own.
When you feel you are without me, listen close.
I whisper louder, when you miss me most.
Love and hugs to you all on this difficult journey.
Bee23