Hi im new to here. My Dad died on boxing day in Spain where he lived. I had been there for 5 weeks. He had a big operation which was sucsesfull. But he developed sepsis and died very quickly. The whole situation was made worse by the language barriers i encountered and his last night was a nightmare he lay on a stretcher for hours then when he was taken to a ward i was sent home and he died before i got back. Im having a really difficult time i cant sleep for nightmares and cry at the drop of a hat. Im going back to the appartment in Spain this week and i dont know how i will manage. I miss him so much and i will expect to see him there. How do i cope?
Hi @heather2460 sorry for this terrible loss. Going back to Spain and your Dad’s apartment will no doubt be very painful. I think you will need to be prepared for it to feel very emotional. Do you have anyone to support you, even if it’s just to speak to and talk through your feelings? Sending best wishes xx
Hi @heather2460
Im sorry for your loss. Just keep your dad in your heart, don’t try to rush anything, do things at your own pace and don’t worry about getting emotional, it’s completely normal.
Take care
Thanks Rosiepink yes i will have my husband with me. Although sometimes i feel he thinks i should be getting over this. Dont think i will ever get over it. Im exhaused with it but cant sleep at the same time. I will also have to think about clearing out some of his stuff the appartment is full of stuff.
Thanks pixicat for your kind words. I will try not to rush things but as the appartment is in Spain i may have to make a start on his belongings as i dont know when i will be back. I have some friends there that ive made over the years im sure they will help but it wont be easy. I just expect him to be sitting in his favourite chair. One good thing his little dog is living with us we brought him back by van and im so glad we did.