I lost my husband 10 days ago, he died suddenly playing badminton. How is it they go out and never come back.I feel my world has ended. My heart hurts. Will i learn to cope.x
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Aww sis, I feel your pain, it’s 14 weeks now for me and still very hard but what I’ve done to self heal has helped. So, I keep getting out the house to see friends and family (even though mostly I want to curl up in a ball), it helps being with people and they’re fine with me being emotional. I also write a daily journal to my beloved husband, I tell him about the days’ events, my thoughts and feelings. I’m also now seeing a counsellor, which is helping me try and get through the whole trauma and loss. Hopefully, that might help in these very very raw days. I feel for you. Xx
Thank you for reaching out, sorry to hear about your husband. Yes am still at the early stage, still got the funeral.can i ask did you feel ever you have no meaning anymore, no place. I am experiencing emotions that i never experience before. Xx
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Its good you’ve found this platform so early, I hope it helps. You will still be in shock, it is very early days for you. You will function on autopilot for a while, this allows you to cope. Looking back I remember very little about the first few weeks. There are no rules, read the advice on here but only do what feels right for you. This will change from moment to moment so dont think too far ahead. Accept any help offered if it feels right. Your life has changed, it will be a while before anything makes sense. X
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@Sis2023 yes, I felt absolutely flawed. Having always been a confident woman, all of a sudden I was very very vulnerable. Everything scared me and I felt like everything was useless. I couldn’t even get in the car and drive for a few weeks, not sure why. I’m back at work now which is helping but I know I’m not the person I was.
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@Sis2023 i felt calmer after the funeral, initially but then it hit like tsunami, especially when the calls, texts etc diminish. The journal I write is so very helpful, even though it’s splattered with tears. V💔
Thank so much, am sure am a lot older then yourselves. Am a young 65, thats what i always thought. I was married for 45yrs years, sobthey say am lucky than most.some people have no idea, they so now you have to be strong and move on. how when you work all your life and grow together and then the love of your lifes gone in a second, no warning goes out to play badminton and drop down dead. I know its early days but i want to make sense of things. Thank you for listening. X
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I get it @Sis2023, it’s so hard. We all understand what you’re going through, we all have different stories but the grief is the same. Keep talking, it helps me and I’m sure it’ll help you. 
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Oh bless you , i dont feel so alone now. My daughter is coming from Portugal where she live, tomorrow. She said she is staying 3 months. Am lucky her 15yrs old son live with me. But i feel so alone, am scared. If it helps you can you tell about your husband. Mine was very fit as we thought, he played tennis twice a week and badminton twice a week. How the hell didn’t i see the signs. I try not to say if only .xx
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Early days for you big hugs. You’ll be feeling nearly every emotion at the moment. Just keep putting one foot in front of the other, taking one day or hour at a time don’t think to far ahead (it sinks me if I do). I’m 44 still 3 lads at home 22, 19, 11 they help me keep going. You’ll find you will feel the need to show your grandson that you have to keep going, and you’ll stay strong in his presence. He will give you a reason to cope xx
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Iit was ment for different post .