Six days ago the man of my dreams died in an accident. We were cuddling on a bridge after making up from a small argument when he said I’ll show you how much I love you and put his leg over onto a platform just below the bridge and went to grab a branch from a tree. As soon as both hands were on the branch it snapped and he fell to his death. It was so dark down there and I couldn’t hear or see him and just started screaming for help. Passersby heard me, climbed down a bank to help him but it was too late.
We had only been together for seven months and he was my knight in shining armour. He showed me what proper love should be like and looked after me and we had so many plans for the future. He was an amazing man but often did crazy things to try and make people laugh and entertain. He was an amazing father to his children and loved his mother, sister and brother so much. He had so many friends and was loved by all.
How can this have happened to him. I feel so guilty, I know I didn’t tell him to do it but he did it because of me and I just don’t know how to carry on living with this and without him. I found the perfect man and then he’s taken away from me.
I am on medication and receiving fantastic support from my family, sons and friends but that can only continue for a short time and I have no idea what the future holds for me now. I’ve not had an easy time lately and meeting him and getting together was the best thing that has ever happened to me. How do people find the strength to carry on?
I find it difficult to offer you the right words, just know that many here, have experienced losses, maybe not so tragic, but just as devastating and heartbreaking.
I lost my love of 60 years, 19 weeks ago tomorrow and I’m heartbroken
However, we can both survive this. We will learn to live with the grief.
The most important thing at the moment is for you to look after yourself. You have friends and family to help, as I have, but in the end it’s really you that can help yourself.
Many here can offer support and advice, so please chat.
Hello Jmj1965, I’m so sorry - I honestly can’t imagine the pain and shock you’re going through. It sounds like you had something really special together. Please don’t blame yourself - you didn’t ask him to do that, so none of this is your fault. I’m glad you’ve got people around you. Just try to take things minute by minute, day by day. Just hang in there for now. It is very shocking - accept all the help that’s offered. Use this forum for support too - the people here are great and really do understand grief.
Warm wishes to you x
It’s very hard, but the most important person at the moment is yourself, so please take care.
My wife passed 19 weeks ago this morning and it’s a struggle every day.
In amongst the tears, I am trying to cook a meal that Jackie could have cooked with her eyes closed and one hand tied behind her back.
Her picture on the wall where I’m sat in the kitchen is keeping an eye on what I am doing.
So take care
