My disabled son aged 20 died suddenly and unexpectedly.
Im still trying to come to terms with the fact its even happened
Its his funeral in 2 days and im in a complete state
Shaking, panicking…i dont know how i will cope
Weve done it as a celebration with the music he loved (amarillo, black eyed peas) and a slide show. A lovely celebrant is overseeing everything
How do i get through it without being a complete mess?
you are laying to rest your beautiful son, its not your job to cope. Grief was never taught, it has no rules and takes enormous courage to face it. Allow yourself kindness. Carrying on as a parent seems impossible, you will get through the funeral but allow yourself to be a mum who has lost her child. x
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What I did at my sons cremation,was I wrote done what I would like to say and took it with me.I suddenly thought I would like to say something ,so I got the courage to go up and read it out . With my husband holding my hand ,I stood up and managed to read out what I had wrote . One of his friends who has autism, wrote he was not only her work mate but also her friend, she was very frighten to stand up and read it out ,so I asked the vicar if he would read it out with her beside him . Some times it helps to write out your feelings.
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