I lost my partner 8 weeks ago to cancer 5 weeks ago was his funeral i feel like my heart has been ripped out all i do is cry its so hard. And now on sunday his brother died suddenly everyone is in shock how can life be so cruel funeral is in a weeks time its like a kick to the hesd everything is the aame right down to the same undertakes i am really struggling.
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Hello @Morag99,
I’m part of the Online Community team and I can see that you are new to the community - I’m so sorry for the loss of your partner and your brother; that is such a lot to cope with. Most community members have sadly experienced the death of a loved one and so will understand some of what you are going through.
I’m sure someone will be along to offer their support, but I wanted to share a few Sue Ryder resources with you that might be helpful.
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Our Grief Guide self-help platform which has information, resources and advice to help you through your grief
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Our Grief Coach text service, which sends you personalised text support via SMS
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Our free Online Bereavement Counselling which is held via video chat
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Our Bereavement Information pages which can walk you through what you are going through.
I really hope you find the community helpful and a good source of support and I also hope you feel you can access more support should you need it.
Thank you again for sharing – please keep reaching out and know that you are not alone.
Take care,
Seaneen
Oh i know its really hard this journey 
my husband passed 6 months ago and it is still so hard … you are very early on and i remember that pain but it will subside but im not gonna lie youre gonna have bad days on and off for a while yet ! Its the hardest , painful road i have ever been on god bless xxxx
That is so hard for you to bare. My partner of 11 years died last month and his service was in Preston where he came from and i live in Scotland so could not attend the service due to my disability. I know it’s a cliche but I plan one day at a time setting myself a target each day. I hope you have people around you.
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I have plenty of people around me and am also having bereavement counselling its really hard and really raw and now with his brother dieing its just awful. I miss my partner so much we were together for 31 years and now i just don’t know what to do. The funeral is going to be so hard next wek and i don’t know how me and my daughter are going to get through it …
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Yoy will get through it honestly - the strength comes from somewhere ! In some ways it is very beautiful saying all the thing’s you want to say about your loved one … its just afterwards … that can be harder in many ways xxx
At the moment it doesn’t feel like i have the strength to get through anything but i will keep going for my family…
I know … but you will find the strength from somewhere on the day .
Honestly u will xxx
I hope so i really do its going to be so difficult but i will get through it …
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